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I feel dismissed often..now the rant...

11 replies

Mumtime2 · 14/12/2023 11:21

I had a disagreement with my bf tonight.
It was on the phone, so I hung up after trying to explain that only a joke is when both of us find it funny, not at my expense in front of his friend.
He asked "What have a done wrong now".
For some reason, in conversations with others, he takes over, and I can not get a word in or be heard. I find it embarrassing.
He seemed to have the older man mentality and laughed when I said it's not ok to do this to me.
I made him a cake and delivered it to him, he asked "Did I sit on it" it's a little flat.

Yes, it's funny to him, but not so much me when I was trying to do a nice gesture. Almost always shot down.
He lashed out when I said I had run by a few comments from this past week to friends, to which he said, "What to your (male) colleague who's no therapist?"
He then screamed down the phone at me. Listen to him say he does not talk to me like that, and it's bs what I'm saying.
I hung up.
Heated, and he hates me telling my mother or friends what's going on or said.
He's older... maybe he's senile and I am bloody stupid.

OP posts:
Sparkletastic · 14/12/2023 11:23

You need to end it. He has no respect for you.

Daleksatemyshed · 14/12/2023 11:29

He hates you telling anyone what's happening because then they can see what an unkind arse he really is. No one would get a second chance to scream at me Op, why are you putting up with this?

perfectcolourfound · 14/12/2023 13:09

It sounds like you'll be much better off without him.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 14/12/2023 13:15

He should become your ex bf now.

MrsKwazi · 14/12/2023 13:20

Why don’t you leave him?
Why do you tolerate it (genuine question btw)

StrawberryWater · 14/12/2023 13:45

I hope you've dumped him. He's awful.

CloudPop · 14/12/2023 14:43

MrsKwazi · 14/12/2023 13:20

Why don’t you leave him?
Why do you tolerate it (genuine question btw)

I was wondering the same thing. Also genuine question.

AgnesX · 14/12/2023 14:49

And you are putting up with this for why?

Brefugee · 14/12/2023 14:51

bin him. But not before baking him a laxative laced cake.

Aquamarine1029 · 14/12/2023 14:54

You are the one choosing to stay with this man. Why? He's a fucking abusive idiot.

Groovee · 14/12/2023 14:57

He'll never listen. I'd walk away.

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