New relationship advice appreciated

[BluntEmily]

I could do with some advice/outside opinions on my relatively new relationship as I’m not sure what’s going on.

Been seeing each other 10 months, all going well however there have been a couple of occasions where he has gone quiet/moody and when I’ve asked what’s wrong he says it’s because he feels I’m expecting him to act in a certain way and it’s putting pressure on him.

I have been genuinely baffled when he’s said this as I had no idea I was doing this. Is that possible? I’m starting to feel like I have to monitor my words and my actions so that I don’t inadvertently do something wrong. That’s not right, is it?

Laughed at "unmanly twerp" - absolutely.

You are correct it's not right.

My abusive ex used to say the same to me. I made him feel bad I spoke to him badly etc but never gave examples. It makes you walk on eggshells and it sets it up that when there are problems it was your fault because he already told you you are mean to him. My ex escalated to full emotional abuse as soon as I got pregnant and once I was tied to him by marriage he got violent. I never saw it coming when it was happening but looking back it was stuff like this right from the start priming his victim.

I wouldn't even bother discussing it again if I were you. You have tried before and got nowhere. I'm sure he can be very charming and maybe a conversation will have you confused again and trying to make it work. It's 10 months and you feel uneasey enough with how he's making you feel to be asking here if you are right. Don't talk to him about it just walk away xx

@PurpleBugz thank you for sharing and i’m so sorry you went through that.

Definitely time for me to end this.

Well that’s the point really isn’t it - to wrong foot you, and then try and make you change your behaviour accordingly.
Fuck that bollocks.
As has been pointed out already, if he cant give specifics, he’s talking crap.
So yes, ciao.