I have just been to the doctors as I think I have PPD . I have a 4 month old with DH and 2 other children who live with us but not DH biologically. We have been together 3 years and married but we always seem to be falling out of arguing. When it’s good it’s great and I feel on top of the world but when it’s bad I feel really stuck, sad and unable to pick myself up.
I have told DH that I think some of my low mood stems from being home alone with the baby when he works long hours (he doesn’t have to) and from not having enough adult conversation with him. I’m not very good at letting someone into my thoughts/emotions so I thought I had done really well on this.
I know that I’ve been irritable and not that pleasant to be around (sad crying) and I’ve been trying really hard to be okay for the kids that I want some reassurance from him that we’re okay.
We seem to have silly arguments, yesterday he wanted to wrap presents but I asked if we could do a quick tidy and get the baby to bed and just be together. He said when we’re together we sit and do nothing. (We’re watching tv- I’m not sure what else we can do - we obviously talk about our days etc) I find that he’s always on his phone and if someone else has a problem he’s the first to help fix it but when it comes to our relationship problem he’s checked out.
I don’t really know where to go from here. How do I get him to see how rubbish I’m feeling? Do I suggest relationship counselling? (I think this would be a hard no from him) it’s taking all of my energy to be present during the day for the kids and the baby that I just want him to have my back and be interested in why I’m feeling this way (not that I have all the answers). I don’t feel like he believes I genuinely feel lost, sad, unloved.
Has anybody successfully come back from ppd and their relationship survived because I’m not sure that mine will.