Is this a man thing or could my DH have some sort of neuro processing disorder

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I've always thought he took a while to process whatever was being said to him and would often repeat back parts of it to confirm exactly what’s been said. However he seems to be doing it more, even for the simplest of conversations.

This is exacerbated if he’s doing something else (no matter how mundane - like drawing the curtains), he cannot concentrate on the two things at once.

e.g. I asks if he wants a cuppa and he always begins with erm, then a big pause, then another erm before giving his answer.

He’ll also use words that aren’t quite the right ones but somewhere in the ballpark. E.g. sorting out the strips for his footie team he called them costumes rather than strips.

He never spoke until he went to school and though he’s now 61 I’ve just always thought there was something and had he been born nowadays it would’ve been picked up on.

Hasn’t stopped him in life but I do think it’s dented his confidence and he does stammer and stutter sometimes.

Any thoughts welcome. Am just curious as he seems to be getting worse and I’m slightly concerned

I do this and have adhd. So it could be linked.

If I am concentrating or thinking about something, and some one speaks, it’s like there’s a delay. I can’t hear them as they say it. But it slowly goes in. sometime I have to replay what they said in head a couple of times over.

Also sometimes if I am concentrating and people talk I experience, what I assume is sensory overload and my brain freezes and I can’t listen or do what I am doing and I feel like all my skin and inside my brain is itching.

I sometimes repeat what people say because I have had too many incidents where people say something, then I respond and they claim that’s not what they said. That could be me but I think it also can be that person changing what they said. So I do it to double check.

I have adhd. I had a bad stammer as a kid and still occasionally stammer. I’m also dyspraxic.

I really struggle to do two things at once unless it’s of my choosing. So I’m happy to watch tv while scrolling the internet. But if I’m looking for the butter in the fridge and Dh starts talking to me it will really stress me out and I’ll feel overwhelmed and probably ask him to shush. I wouldn’t be able to concentrate on what he was saying and wouldn’t be able to respond.

I sometimes will use incorrect words normally because I’m thinking about one thing while trying to have a conversation about something else.

It sounds like some kind of cognitive function condition as PP’s say

But, if it’s getting worse it could well indicate cognitive decline, so do ring the GP to book a review.

Stress might be another explanation, but I don’t think he’s anywhere near old enough for ‘just getting older’ to be the reason.

When did he last have covid?

Because covid has neurological effects, and this sort of creeping deterioration fits with that

I'm the same, and so are a couple of people at work. Know the word just can't seem to "find" it if that makes sense!

I struggle sometimes to understand though I have hearing issues

Yep 😢😢

Im finding it worrying because I also found I don’t have the intellectual ‘agility’ I use to have either.

So do I!!!