I feel like I’ve already answered my own question but it’s good to get others’ perspectives. A man through work actively pursued a relationship with me, and whilst we’re not “official” whatever that means, we have passed the stages of being intimate and saying the “L” word. A few weeks ago he jumped to conclusions about me disappearing at night. I genuinely had fallen asleep but he assumed I was out… doing god knows what. He became very distant and detached until finally agreeing to talk about things which had a simple explanation. Things were great until he became stressed at work. He had a few things going on and seemed to spiral into a pit of depression. As much as I tried to reach out he was barely speaking, ignoring my messages and refusing to speak on the phone which is important as we’re long distance. This morning I saw he had left comments about a woman’s looks on social media, and when I tried to explain that this had hurt me, and even though we haven’t made the relationship “official” I felt betrayed. He has now proceeded to completely ignore me. He’s usually such a kind, loving affectionate person but I can’t help feeling like I’ve ended up falling for someone who cares very little for my emotional wellbeing.