Partner choosing to spend time with family rather than me over Christmas

[frrefrom77]

I don't know if I'm being unreasonable or not. My partner of 6 years (have lived together for 3) has decided to spend Christmas Eve until Boxing Day with his parents and siblings, he will then on Boxing Day be going to see his children for a few days. I will be with my children until they go their dads on Christmas Day afternoon. I'm feeling a bit sad that I'll be alone from around 4 p.m on Christmas Day until he returns on around the 30th.Going to see his children is obviously not an issue, but I'm struggling to accept him wanting to spend the few days over Christmas without me, but I'm willing to accept I'm being selfish here. What are others opinions?

Also, as others have said, he's known his family his whole life and they've supported him from birth. He's only known you for 6 years and he's not made the commitment of marrying you, you're just his girlfriend who he can easily break up with at any time.

He's spent Christmases already with your kids and vice versa, I can see why he wants to spend this time with his own family and siblings who will always be there for him and have some family time together with them. It's also special reminiscing with family about childhood Christmases etc.

Sounds like you might do this now, but yes the obvious answer to me would to be to join him after your kids go to their dad's.

Once your kids go to their dads can you not go and join him and his family ??

if not, get a load of your favourite food and drinks in and spend the days lazing on the sofa in your pjs watching all your favourite films/programmes! Get some girlfriends round to join you…. Heaven!

So this is the first year of this arrangement. Why don't you go and join them at 4pm?
Why shouldn't he see his family at that time?

I don't see the problem with his arrangement.

Your title sounds a like he is leaving you behind on purpose and you are not going because your kids don't want to go.

Has he asked you to join him at 4 pm on Christmas day? If not why not?

It sounds like you'd like him to prefer to spend Xmas day with you and your kids versus his family . I can see why he'd prefer his own family to be honest. Obviously your focus for the day will be around your kids .

"You both have separate families so of course you won't be the same as an intact family who spends their Christmas together. It's the reality I'm afraid when people choose to break up their families."

What a judgmental post. And how do you know they chose to break up their families? They may have both been left by their exes.

Wow controlling much? Moaning because he is going to spend time with his family.

That's rubbish.

People don't always 'Choose' to break up their famililes.
Those who do often do it for a really good reason, including for the sake of their children. All year, not just on Christmas Day.
Being in a blended family can make things more complicated, but then so can a number of other factors. The two families I know with the most complicated / fractured Christmases are still married.
I'm in a blended family and it doesn't have to be stressful. And if there was, the stress wouldn't be some sort of punishment for leaving my addict of an ex husband.

He's spent the last 2/3 christmases with you.

You can go and be with him once your children go their dad's house?

What a load of fuss over nothing.

There really are some horrible people on here.

Isn't this the way of blended families though?
Someone is always going to lose out.