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Why do you think someone doesn't get anyone showing interest?

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Poppybob · 10/12/2023 23:10

I read about experiences of women who gain lots of male attention/interest in various forms... Some horrendous/awful and some funny/romantic. As a 40 something year old woman who has only been with DH.... Am really curious as to why I've never (in my life that I can think of) have never had anyone apart from DH interested. Am OK ish looking, in good shape and like to think am friendly etc etc.... But yet I've never ever been someone who gets chatted up or had anyone at all showing interest. My friends get a lot of attention and interest. I Would be interested to know what people's thoughts are on this.

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Poppybob · 13/12/2023 18:24

Must be a vibey thing I give off, or must be a such a troll like creature and just don't realise it🤣. Either way it's not a big deal I suppose in grand scheme of things but just interesting. I've never had any of the unwanted attention etc etc... I hear women talking about and it feels alien to me that women experience this. In some ways I feel lucky but also there's a little part of me that wonders why?

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PaintedEgg · 13/12/2023 20:13

I agree with people who say it depends on how approachable / friendly / chatty you appear

I have a face as plain as porridge, but back in my pub/club attending days I'd get chatted up a fair bit which I can only put down to being happy to talk to a street cone if I've run out of people to chat with....and I was always keen on low cut tops 😂

Disturbia81 · 13/12/2023 23:01

I get a lot more attention as I get older because I'm more chatty, smiley, got banter and confident now.

Disturbia81 · 13/12/2023 23:03

Ripleysgameface · 11/12/2023 15:57

Sex appeal I think.

Some women are pretty and attractive but not obviously sexy.

I had a successful modelling career when younger but never had any male attention. My friends did, I was always the awkward lanky and tall friend who never had a boyfriend.
Old men used to like me Grin

Gross.

Isthisexpected · 13/12/2023 23:07

TheYearOfSmallThings · 11/12/2023 22:58

Oh yes! I got this on Saturday from a dad I was making polite (bored) conversation with at my son's football.

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Are you sure it wasn't a very normal in context part of chat? You were at his kid's football too presumably? So his kid's mum was probably quite relevant. Very different to in a bar or work conference. Either way I think more men should be like him and have really clear boundaries.

Olangula · 13/12/2023 23:18

I am single and looking. Never had a whiff of interest from anyone. I have never had a date, even as a teenager. I am on all the apps. Nada. Very recently it was gently suggested to me that I should give up on trying to meet someone.

I have had previous relationships where I approached the men. Both later admitted they were never interested in the first place.

I often see women write that they feel invisible. I don't feel invisible. I feel laughable.

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