How to subtlety prove I’m better than the other guy without being a bitch

[CNP1225]

So there is this girl who’s been interested in me for about 6 months, and she’s flirted with me and tried getting me to hangout with her on two occasions but I never reciprocated her feelings

Wasn't until about a month ago that I began to catch feelings back. Sure enough right when I caught said feelings I found out she’s already got a guy she’s been talking to before she even met me. They’re not dating but he’s at her place a lot of nights

I've met the dude in person and without sounding like a narcissist, he’s lame compared to me. Dirty car, dirty ass long nails, I couldn’t tell you why she’s paling around with him considering she’s very attractive but I haven’t talked to her since I met the guy about a week ago

Now that I realize I like her back how can I prove to her that I’m better without coming across as a bitch? I don’t want to tell her I like her now or try too hard to win her over. Generally speaking I respect when two people are talking and I do not wanna be that guy

Only thing I can think to do is play it cool and just let her naturally see I’m better I don't know. Her track record with guys is horrible so I doubt it’ll ultimately go anywhere but that do you guys think?

So you weren't interested, she moved on and now she has found someone who is interested, you decide you are better for her. Not sure you are right.

Maybe she just likes being with someone who 1) likes her back and 2) isn't trying to play stupid mind games.

You do understand this site is for grown ups don't you?

You just have to suck it up buttercup.

oh dear. hope you are wearing your big boy pants because you are about to hear some home truths. lol.

Why do you think mumsnet is the place to get answers to your dilemma?

@YouCantBeSadHoldingACupcake Well no, if you read the post she had been talking him before she met me. She didn’t “find” someone new

You asked on here for advice only a few days ago.

Not being horrible but don't you have friends in RL to talk to about this?

it's you again. Why didn't you take the advice given in the other thread?

Just ask her out. Like a normal grown up.

Are you sure this is the right site for you?

So you like her, you want her to know you like her, but you don't want to actually tell her you like her you just want her to figure it out?

There is something so unsexy about a passive man who expects women to do a ton of extra mental effort to work out what he's thinking and what he wants rather than just saying how he feels. Usually indicates the kind of man who more generally expects a woman to take on the extra mental load in all areas of their life.

Also are you 12?

No one has time for these games. Just tell her you like her or ask her out on a date. She might say yes or she might say no only one way to find out. I wouldn’t hang around in the background just waiting because although you think you’re better than him, she might not agree. Just ask her out and see

Right number's just the wrong way round.

So you only want her now she’s given up on you and given her attention to someone else? He sounds like the better person despite his ‘dirty long ass nails’.

Dear lord I’ve only just got to the bottom of your thread. So you want to win her affections back, but only if you can do it without making any effort so you can look cool? You’re a complete prick 😂

AIBU or simply AI?