What was your 'I need to leave this relationship' moment?

[spaceandstar]

I'm curious, because I'm scared I'm getting to.

I'm in love with DP still and he does have many great things about him - but we're at a place where I feel detached from each other.

Our parenting styles keep clashing (and there's been the odd argument in front of kids which I hate).
Our emotional styles are completely different. He can often come across really dismissive and detached from any of my emotional needs anyway.
The communication is terrible and I've brought it up multiple times but nothing ever changes.
I feel at this point if I'm totally honest that there's a lack of appreciation for each other in general, no matter what the other does (my flaw too).
I struggle with my SC.
Sex life is nonexistent.

I just panic that I'm getting older and my kids are getting older and I don't want to look back and think 'god, I wish I'd got out of that sooner, that dragged me down', but I also panic that I could hastily leave my children's dad who I am still in love with because of my fear of wasting my life.

Anyway, original question...

My daughter said hers was when he said he was going to vote Leave. They'd been seeing each other for about 6 weeks.

‘felt he wouldn't care if I dropped dead’ yes I felt this too. 😞 It’s horrible.

My last straw moment happened on a holiday with other friends - I saw my relationship through their eyes and just thought ‘WTF am I doing?’. There had been years of unhappiness before this but kids, house etc kept me from leaving. But I really did have this single moment where I just knew how unacceptable it was, and from then on I never really wavered again.

It'll sound like nothing but...

I was in town doing some Christmas shopping, and realised I couldn't think of anything to get him, and that I couldn't face another Christmas with him and his moany face.

That was the end of November. I left on 3rd December and my my now-husband almost immediately.

I finally saw it when he had the same nasty, bullying attitude towards our dd over something she’d apparently done wrong. Like others, seeing it from the outside lifted the scales from my eyes. Obviously there was also the thing of protecting them.

Someone I know saw it when her exh turned on us, she realised what she had been putting up with.
We often can’t see it ourselves because we’re too close, and too ground down.
Hugs to all those going through it xx

It was him that ended it, but the moment our relationship keeled over and died was when he made me cry uncontrollably in public while we were on holiday (I had barely ever cried during the relationship, let alone in public).

We both knew there was no going back from there, really, even if it took one of us (me) longer to accept.

Here’s an inspirational video for you all. Turn it up loud xx

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=vAqkQY8mV4E&pp=ygUUS2VlcGluZyBtZSBhbGl2ZSBmZXE%3D

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