Interrupting husband!

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Grrr anyone else? So annoying. He’s very apologetic but can’t seem to help himself. He’s not a great listener. He’s very keen to tell us all something so doesn’t listen. Than the conversation is like a game of tennis, rather than reflecting back what the other person has said.

it’s starting to make me anxious in conversations, waiting for him to jump in. And now the kids are teens I want to hear their views not him interrupting and getting his word in all the time. He says he now feels like he can’t speak, but surely there’s a middle ground.

I’m particularly annoyed as my youngest just got back from a school trip and he was telling me about it and my husband was interjecting with his little snippets (as he’d picked him up from the car so hit more info). So I couldn’t concentrate on my son. When K pointed it out he was all sad and apologetic. Just stooopppppppp doing it then!

And breathe… he’s very considerate in other ways. Just this. He sees the kids more than I do as he works from home so I just want to hear from them sometimes without his input.

I do this. I have ADHD and find it very hard to control interrupting because I just have to say things before it falls out of my brain. I find writing things down as other people speak helps.

@Leafysuburb that’s interesting, thanks. At least you recognise it and have a solution that works.

I'm a big talker, maybe ADD but I have learnt as an adult that this is annoying and to curb it.

If I notice I have talked a lot I then let the other person speak for ages and try to keep a joy quieter for the rest of the interaction.

As a positive no one is short of recommendations and anecdotes

A lot !

So few people listen, properly listen. I really notice good listeners now and try to be like that too.

My ex uses to do this, I'd be telling him something and he'd just sorry sweetie but...and just start going on about something else. Sometimes I'd get back to what I was saying but a lot of the time we didn't.

I'm not the most confident talker and it really killed my self esteem sometimes, I'd start thinking god I must talk some boring shite if he can't listen to me for 5 minutes. I'd just not bother at times. He'd apologise but never stop doing it. It is very annoying

If ADHD is the problem, it's not something that can be controlled easily. So just saying "don't do it" won't work. As someone else said, he needs a strategy - and maybe an assessment and understanding?

He sounds like a twat

He needs to take the initiative himself to learn effective communication skills. It's a bit tedious to practice at first, but the info is out there on the web easily accessed.

My DH is an interrupter. His family did it, so for him it was normal.

I pull him up on it - “DS was speaking!” - and he is much better now than he used to be.

Thanks all. I don’t like pulling him in front if the kids but I do wait until he’s finished and then ask them to continue. It’s a bit passive aggressive though. I do speak to him afterwards.

He has taken it on board and I can see him having to stop himself. He’s just keen to jump in with his word. I think it’s the way they all grew up. His mum never comments on anything I say just talks about her thing- an exchange of information. He’s from a big family.

He’s really not a twat @Showmethesunny Just a bit annoying at times!

When the kids talk about something, I often want to ask them a bit more about it/their views etc… he just accepts it and jumps in with his thing. Urghhh

He was really apologetic tonight as I was really pissed off. It doesn’t help that he’s always here (wfh) so I notice it a lot more and have less patience with it/less time with the kids on their own than I used to.

Unless he has got issues I think it's just rude and discourteous. My husband does this all the time. We once had a meal with some new acquaintances who wanted to get to know us. It was the most mortifying night of my life. Even when they made a point of addressing me to include me he interrupted. He needs to be more aware that other people have opinions that actually matter too.