Hi everyone - a question about a very new relationship - I experienced a break up in March of this year after being with that person for 10 years (my first experience of a serious break up, so this is all new territory for me - I'm 33F)
I met someone at the end of September IRL, I wasn't looking for a relationship or to be with anyone but have spent quite a bit of time with this person since then and have opened up to him in ways I never thought I could again with another person after leaving my ex.
We were very open about our intentions when we first started getting together and I mentioned that I wasn't looking for a relationship, that I was still getting used to being alone after such a LTR and not sure if I had the capacity to think so fully about another person.
As the time has been progressing, I feel a strong connection to him - we both mentioned that it feels like much more than just a 'situationship' - I felt in such a good place and genuinely happy and surprised (in a nice way) that I could feel such a way about someone else again.
Now, here's the kicker - this weekend would have been mine and my exes 11 year anniversary - it's really knocked me for six and I've felt extremely down and emotional - not with feelings of regret or wanting to go back to my ex whatsoever, but feelings of deep sadness - the guy I'm seeing has sensed I'm not quite myself, and since we've been so open with each other I shared what I'm feeling - I feel extremely bad for putting past emotional feelings on him and feel aware that I wanted to have fully dealt with all of this before involving another person.
Is it normal for me to feel so down of what would have been an anniversary with someone I chose to left and have no want to go back to?
AIBU letting a new person into my life when I'm still having emotions like this about my ex relationship? Have I overshared with him? We agreed very early that we'd be honest with each other and I wanted him to know what's going on and that my being 'off' is nothing to do with him - have I let someone in too early?
Thank you for reading.