My partner enrages ne

[AliSxo]

This might sound a strong word but my partner enrages me due to his lack of "get-up and go" around the house. He owns a business which is his pride and joy and he's on top of all the minute business tasks but when it comes to the home he really isn't interested. I work full time and we have a toddler, I do pretty much 95% of the housework and for example for our sons birthday on our joint account I purchased, wrapped and arranged every present/cake/party/gift bag.
I've very recently come off antidepressants after 2 years which I'm ready to do, my mental health is good but my partner enrages me with his lack of care for the household chores and general life admin.
If I say can you fold these towels up he'll be on his phone, nod along and not do it, so that x100 times a day/week builds up to rage. I don't want to have to always ask him to clean/tidy/sort/DIY - I want him to do it without me asking and actually do it when asked, I sound bossy but we've been together 10+ years so I feel at my wits end with this.
He thinks I need to learn to control my annoyance but I feel like he needs to grow up and actually act like he lives here and isn't just a lodger. Any advice is welcome xx

Leave him...he's a lazy twat

You know what to do.

Even a lodger would clean up after himself.

The problem is he, and honestly, you too - see the housework and childcare as your job. So you do 95% of it along with working and you ask him to do things.

Was it the same begone the children? You doing 95% in the house even though you also work full time?

It's not his job to 'help' it's his job to do his share.
Without being told as if he's a child with chores expecting some star stickers.

But together you've agreed that actually, it's 'wifework'. Him by showing you who he is. And you by staying and even having kids with him.

Yes he is a dick. But you're accepting it.

He won't change. He fundamentally doesn't think it's his job. Your options are to live with it, or to end the relationship.