Is it really ghosting if you’ve never met??

[purpledaze24]

Just curious about people’s opinions on this one. I’m currently single and on some dating apps. I have a fair amount of matches but my motivation for these apps comes in peaks and troughs so sometimes I’ll have a couple of messages with someone and not get back to them because I get distracted by life or I just don’t see it going any further. The other day a woman (I’m a bi woman) who I never got back to sends me a message saying “Didn’t anyone ever tell you it’s very rude to ghost? Why do you think it’s ok to get people’s hopes up like that? 🙄💔”
I was shocked at how OTT her reaction was. This woman literally sent me two messages - the first one I replied to and the second was in reply to mine. I wasn’t interested so I didn’t continue the conversation. I don’t feel like I owe strangers on the internet my time or an explanation as to why I don’t want to chat anymore. I’ve been “ghosted” plenty of times after short chats with people. It doesn’t bother me at all, I put it down to just being part of the online dating experience. Am I in the wrong here?

Of course you're not in the wrong. She's ridiculous.

Well that tells you everything you need to know about potentially being in a relationship with her.. not worth the stress!

She’s sending broken heart emojis after one message from you!?!? 😂

I think nowadays think it's fashionable to call people out... in the right circumstances maybe not this.

No
but maybe she’s had a tough run and fell for your profile and the idea of you ?

She’d surely have felt even worse if you’d written back a lengthy and blunt account of why you’d decided you weren’t interested in her after all.

YANBU obviously.
She needs to not 'get her hopes up' after a message or two.

Oh I couldn't be bothered. If she gets her hopes up from two random messages then she needs a reality check.

She’s being ridiculous. Once you’ve met it’s polite to tell them if you’re not feeling it but I’m sure we all know change a couple of messages with someone then delete.

I’ve had similar. Exchanged a couple of messages with a guy earlier this year. Wasn’t feeling it so i unmatched. I came off the app for a few months then rejoined not long ago. He sent me a really rude message saying ‘well look who’s back to waste peoples time just to boost her overinflated ego. Don’t bother replying you ain’t all that anyway and I hope you end up a lonely old lady’

I mean WTAF?? Get over it mate

Personally I’d say she’s either new to OLD or too thin skinned to be there.

I was a bit like that at first - though I never made comments like that - ghosting felt personal but as time goes on I just shrug my shoulders and go ‘next’

Thank you for your replies confirming what I thought - that she’s the crazy one! And I’m not being a dick by ignoring. Maybe in future I’ll unmatch rather than ignoring, then they can’t send rude, entitled replies!