Need to moan and grumble and let off steam about DP

[KaySamuels]

DS has been ill since mon tea time. Has had fever/chills, sickness, tummy pains, gone white, sad, tired, not sleeping or eating or drinking. Over the week he has got wore instead of better.

Yest DP went to his aunt's funeral, set off in the a.m. got back at 7:40pm. After tea (I madly cooked a roast chicken for us all) and pot washing and drying, DS was sick with bright green bile and a rash appeared on his neck that didn't fade when pressed on.

I rang NHS direct and they said a nurse would ring me back in the hour. DP went to bed as he was pissed and had to be up for work at 4am. He swore if we needed to go to docs he would come with me.

Nurse called me at 10:30pm and told me to go straight to A+E. I had to get a taxi, and woke DP 3 times very loudly and physically to come with me. He stayed in bed.

I spent all last night in A+E and the found ds a bed in children's ward to keep an eye on rash and fever, and dehydration. DP wouldn't answer phone so had to ring sil's house and get her to ring his mobile. He then turned up having drove into town annd bought himself a bottle of coke from vending machine.

I am soo mad with him. I have had enough of his selfish wankerish ways. I have lost respect for him, I really feel we are at the end of the line here.

Sorry for the ramble, thanks if you are still with me.

Doc said last night DS would have to have drip if he didn't start drinking but luckily he did. We got home at noon. DS has antibiotics for tonsilitus which are vile and make him sick. He is crying and guess who is asleep on sofa.

How horrible for you. How horrible that your little DS was so ill and your DP didn't seem to notice

He looks very cute on your pics by the way... your DS I mean, not your DP

Oh that's just horrible, am very and for you and your DS. Is this typical behaviour of your DP?

I think I would be waiting till DS is better and then sitting down with DP and telling him that's just totally unacceptable. I mean, honestly, any reasonable adult could tell you why his behaviour was so wrong.

Kay, you poor thing, I remember very well when my DD was a baby and I had to rush her to hospital in the night and her father was very similar to your DP, I have never forgotten how much it hurt that he could be so blase about it.

I remember your other thread recently about the struggles you have had with your partner, and I have to wonder if it's worth putting any more into this relationship. What's in it for you? Years of your life slipping away when you could have a proper loving, commited relationship with someone new? It sounds to me like your partner is detaching himself, sadly.

Did you see my pandora's box thread a while back?

There is only so much I can put up with.

Yes he has good qualities but is generally selfish. Always thought he would be there for ds thoughif he needed him.

I agree anorak about the detaching thing. Maybe he isn't even bothered if I do go.

Aw Kay

Do you think that things might be coming to a head now ?

It's looking that way boys.

Either he is f*ing clueless or doesn't give a crap. I'm not sure.

If I leave I haven't finsished my nvq and have to give families I mind 4weeks notice. Aargh.

He says sorry but then does something just as selfish as soon as the opportunity arrives.

Well perhaps he can leave, or you can live together amicably until you finish your nvq and get sorted. Surely he owes you that much?

Could live here a bit longer but don't know if I could do it emotionally. Need to think. Also need to have this oujt with DP before he thinks he is off the hook.

Oh Kay, what a mess! Sorry you're going through such a hard time this week. Hope DS feels better soon. Maybe it is time for the 'cards on the table' chat.

You alright hon? I agree about getting it all out time, and some soul searching of what you need, and if this is it. The lack of support must be gutting, it's his child too after all.

I am sorry x

Hi we all had a good nights sleep last night thankfully. I feel my life is such a mess and whatever I decide will be hard.

Aw i really feel for you

I read your othet thread, you are going through some shit at the moment arn't you!

All i can say is try not to panic about what is going to happen if you do leave, things ALWAYS work out,t here is always a way round things, it may not be ideal at first but it will all pan out in the end.

Maybe you dp just needs a shock to make him realise he won't be getting away with what he is doing, maybe the unexpected for him will be good & make him buck his ideas up?

Whatever happens stay strong for you & your ds

If we split up then that would be it scoodyboo, he could completely change character and i wouldn't even consider taking him back.

I have felt very sad today. It's slowly dawning on me that he will never change. I can't look at him, I feel so let down, I never thought I would feel so heartbroken looking at him.

I want someone who enjoys being at home with me in an evening, appreciates me, shows me 100% respect, that I can completely trust and rely on.

I always thought we would grow old together. Right now I can't imagine that without seeing a bitter old woman at the end of it and I don't think I want to carry on down that path.

How do you know the difference between a rough patch that can be fought through together and the end of the line.?????.....