does anyones oh/dh always lie or hide things from you......

[mum2samandalex]

just because they think you wont approve. Im sick of my dh being like this over some things that are really silly-i then end up finding out from someone else or another way which makes me wonder what else hes hiding or if its not such a big deal then why hide it.

We do have trust issues as he once kissed another girl when we were first dating. It wasnt the kiss that pissed me off it was the fact he hid it from me and knowing he had done it he once said in our bed that he would never cheat on me. I couldnt believe he could look me in the eyes saying that when it was only a month or two before that he had.And thats what annoyed me most.

Since then he lies about where he is , who's he going out with for a drink with etc maybe because i dont like his friends although its not like i ever talk about them. He says he doesnt want to cause a row but i didnt think it would and if it did and i was being unreasonable id rather he put me in my place. Id rather him just tell me and deal with it. Because i always end up finding out somehow any way which just makes me distrust him more.

Me and DP have broken up in the past for 6 months because of his lies. Whats even worse, he never saw them as lies - just protecting me.

He knows now that I don't need protecting, and that if he's doing something that he thinks I need protecting from - then he shouldn't be bloody doing it.

I' be suspicious about him lying about where he is with and who with. Who and where is he with when you have eventually found out?

• Who he is with and where when you have eventually found out

Have you asked him why he lies?

I had issues with lying with my ex, unfortunately he was lying to hide a drug habit and I assume numerous flings (I caught him out at the end).
I'd explain that the lies make you believe the worst and that you can't put up with it.
I wouldn't be able to stay with someone who lied after my experiences.

why did you marry someone who lies to you?

My ex was a compulsive lyer, he lied to me about anything and everything, some of the lies where because he thought I'd get upset if I knoew (?!) and others where to hide massive drug habits like VS. He lied to everyone, not just me. I didn't know this at first obviously, but slowly found out. I think once a lier always a lier, it is a habit that's hard to break from, and means you can never fully trust anything they say, ever.