Am I over reacting

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So husband came home today and said, woah looks like a bomb went off here, normally everyday he’s home everything is clean and tidy today I left some toys on floor, th is is what he’s referring to and it set me off completely, to which he’s now saying there isn’t a problem I just created one. Then argued for a while, after a couple of hours he apologised said he can see how I took it but he soesnt mean it like that and everything else he said was in anger and he didn’t mean it. Now I’m finding it hard to let go, I feel really upset and felt like he was gaslighting and antagonising me to get me to the point of crhing which unfortunately I did get to. Am I just being sensitive here

Hard to tell without knowing what else he said.

I think we'd need more context tbh.

Me and dp split everything 50/50 and he's very hands on. If he came home and said that in a light hearted way, I'd probably shrug and agree with him. No big deal. He's then help with tidying etc.

If he feels tidying/keeping a house is your job/domain and he was saying it in a critical or unhappy way and genuinely complaining I would lose it!!

Is it a symptom of a bigger issue?

Thanks for replying guys @Readingineading @swuahies
the cleaning is my domain everything around the house is tbh, he chips in on weekends when he’s not working with few things that’s just the way we have divided it I guess.
the things he said to me where that I am creating a problem he didn’t by saying that, he said I should Jusy not feel things, I nag all the time, I said to him let’s just leave it at that because I feel upset that you said that to me you’re making me feel not appreciated I feel like you always have a negative comment to say rathe than positive, he said your just creating problems it was really back and fro tbh

Tbh, someone telling me I 'nag all the time' would probably be out on his arse on the pavement 3 seconds later.

I think you know it was a dig. Otherwise you wouldn't have reacted as you did. Now he's backpeddaling and gaslighting.

However, if it was a one off, then maybe just let it slide. He's been told.

If its part of a bigger pattern of ungreatfulness and seeing housework as 'wife work' then maybe you need to think on things further.