Does anyone else just cry sometimes?

[Melonely]

Just watching a film on TV, semi predictable rom com but I'm a mess. Watching the two people falling for each other has just made me realise how lonely in my marriage I am.

Not much point to this except wondering if anyone else feels this way sometimes? It's not only the sadness and loss of what we had but also knowing there's no hope in the future either.

Yeah I imagine scenarios and cry about it lol

Yes me, I feel lonely in my marriage. I’ve been watching these romantic Xmas movies and it made me upset to realise that I will never fall in love again, never have a loving hug or cuddle.

Yes, I am just an emotional wreck atm 🤷‍♀️

Yes it is good to cry as releases emotions and feelings and better than keeping it all in.
I watched funeral of Shane McGown today on tv and such amazing Irish singers and musicians and I cried and laughed and cried again when they sang my favourite song Rainy Night In Soho. Made me so nostalgic to carefree days living in London and listening to The Pogues on my Walkman and all the dreams for the future.
Try to find something else that fills your life. Can you not separate or is it complicated with children etc.
I am single and staying single but am in my 50's and am more content and relaxed than when I am in a relationship with all the stresses etc. It is far more lonely been with someone not content with than been alone and I am not lonely as have my dog and adult child here. But feel people also stigmatize if you are single even though chose to be single as if there is something wrong with me but at this stage don't care. Sending hugs to all that feel sad and low.

When I was a teenager I cried every night for years. Undiagnosed depression, I suppose.

Could it be that for you too? How’s your mood when you’re not crying?

Crying is your body's way of telling you its time for change.

If you're not happy in your marriage, work towards leaving it.

Lots of people spend so much energy being miserable and lamenting being miserable. Day after day, year after year. Ultimately it would have been far less draining to fix the thing that's making them miserable in thr first place.

Who says you can't have love again?
You're the only thing stopping you from trying.

I am a crier too. Always have been. Sensitive, you could say. But crying excessively watching movies depicting love/romance etc happened more for me when I was in a (long) unhappy marriage….. and another misguided relationship afterwards.
I am now happily single, content and funnily enough no longer feel lonely, and whilst I’m still a crier (and embrace my sensitivity!), it’s not as frequent and the triggers have changed. I now cry because I am moved by music/art, nature, people’s stories… Moved by love, by all means, but the edge of longing/sadness has been taken off.
It’s a lovely to finally be free.
I wish you all the best too OP 💐

Beelips you said that beautifully and agree with all you said that it is lovely to be free and embrace myself and happiness within.

That's not "just crying sometimes", though, is it?

What I mean is, it's not random unprompted tears.

It's entirely justified, totally understandable tears, where a well-crafted piece of drama, with carefully-portrayed relationships embodying certain universally-understood tropes and archetypes, and skillful portrayals of relatable situations and powerful emotions, has connected with you and where you are in life right now, in just the kind of ways that drama is often intended to — your memories, regrets, hopes, fears, relationships, losses, and so on. Unfortunately, the places where it has connected with you are places which are very painful to the touch at the moment.

Not everyone will react in the same way to the same films, but when there are certain tender areas in your psyche, things which are written with the aim of connecting with people on an emotional level will probably provoke painful feelings if they probe at those areas.

It's an awful feeling, being so lonely when you're not technically alone, when you're with the person our culture constantly tells us is supposed to be the one who completes us, the one we can be ourselves with and feel a bond with like no other. That kind of loneliness that's actually accentuated, not relieved, by the presence of other people, and even more so when the other person is your partner.

Your tears aren't random outbursts — they're a real, sane response to something that's jabbing at a painful spot.

Edit to add: I'm not sure my tone is coming across how I intend here.

I'm trying to emphasise that you're not being irrational, you're not necessarily suffering from a clinical mental health problem (though I guess you may be, but I mean that you wouldn't have to be in order to have this kind of reaction to things), and your crying is not insignificant or unimportant or disproportionate. Even the most formulaic rom-com can make use of decades'-worth of techniques for connecting to the viewers' own emotions, and has many skilled people involved in carrying it out. So even something quite ordinary and clichéd can connect with authentic parts of us, and cause authentic pain when it does.

Thank you for your posts, @DumboHimalayan you've articulated that so well, it is exactly as you've described.

I'm glad it came across how I meant! I was worried it sounded like I was nitpicking your title, when what I was trying (clumsily) to say was that it feels like you're maybe being a bit hard on yourself, like the reason isn't good enough or something, when it's actually really understandable.

(Though randomly crying for no apparent reason is also really understandable — God knows I've done enough of that during my bad patches!)

I'm sorry you're going through this — it's so difficult. I hope all the other posters on this thread sharing similar experiences have at least helped you feel that you're not the only one.