I ended it with my partner a week ago. His best friend died unexpectedly last night. Should I make contact or...

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Or should I just let him find support elsewhere? I don't know what to do.

For context, we were together almost 3 years. He had been pushing for us to move in together but I was reluctant, for my own multiple reasons. I don't hate him and he didn't do anything wrong. It was my first relationship since my 2017 divorce.

My mother died during my divorce and the exH brought food over and took our children for extra time, he was kind and I still wanted to complete the divorce.

I have texted the bereaved partner as I met her several times and really liked her. She is in shock.

My ex boyfriend was really upset about the break up and now his best friend is dead. I just don’t know whether to contact him or leave it...

I'm shocked too and so sad for the children. There was a terribly bitter divorce and I am concerned about the ex wife's reaction too, I know my boyfriend will want to support his (unofficial) godchildren. But maybe I just need to completely stay out of it? I'm going round and round and round.

Any wise words?

I would absolutely send a text. The poor guy. To those saying she shouldn't offer support incase he takes it the wrong way seems so childish, I doubt many grown ups would jump and twist someone's genuine offer of support over something like this. Op you were together a while, tbe split sounds like it was sad but not nasty, to ignore this in this instance would surely make him feel like he didn't matter to you at all. If he does try and make the sentiment all about you getting back together well then I'm sure you can handle that, but please do get in touch with him

It is right to acknowledge as you will have known the deceased well from what you've said.

I wasn't sure if you were actually intending to include the '...' as per your draft but that's a terrible idea if so. It suggests at 'something more' and so end on a full stop.

Also what practical support might he need that you are best placed to fulfil? I wouldn't offer that either. Just a simple text to say that you know, that you're sorry and wish him well.

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