I was with my exH for 10 years, married and had a baby. Some issues with us but I was very close to his family, his SIL and I were each other’s bridesmaids, got on really well with in laws, did family holidays and saw each other a few times a week. I have a very small family and his was big but they made me part of theirs from day 1 and I loved it. SIL was pretty nasty about us having a baby (she had a competitive streak but I always let it slide) and I wasn’t happy, her and ExH DB turned on me and turned the rest of the family on me. I ended up splitting up with H over it all when DS was just two months old as couldn’t handle the stress of it anymore. A few years on I’m still alone, completely single parent and very little support. I believe that exBIL and SIL have their own kids now and it makes me so sad that I’m not a part of it over one silly argument (that I tried five times to fix, even though it wasn’t entirely my fault!). I wish I could get over it because it’s been a few years now but I still find myself crying sometimes. I think the “it takes a village” stings because they have an army of family around them and I have no one really. I wish I could forget it all