Does it sound like I’m being rude and unappreciative?

[Hammondhugh]

Messages from colleague to me:

them: “congrats by the way for the promotion, dint see you before the end of today”
me:”thanks. I appreciate it.”
them:”yeah you deserve it. If you didn’t get it I’d be annoyed. I’d hand in my notice because it would be a really poor choice”
me: “I’m happy. But we both know this role only came about because I didn’t get the lead role I initially applied for. You know that though. You’ve been here long enough” (*I reckon I sound ungrateful here but it wasn’t meant that way. I meant i feel like they felt sympathy for me so gave it to me)
them: “fair play but I didn’t get my first promotion for 7 years in”
me: “yeah no I know. Don’t misinterpret it. I’m of course happy I got it”
them: “you better be. If anything I would always back your cause”
me: oh come on. You’re misunderstanding me here. I’m not being unappreciative. You’ve seen all I’ve done while my manager has been away. I’m happy I got the role. I feel I’m being told off here. What have I said wrong?”

Do I sound unappreciative? For a side note I feel very patronised by him. I also actively flirt with this man after work. And I also bicker with him.

Yes. As you were already told on your AIBU thread about this.

Yes. As everyone said on your identical other thread.

Seriously? 😂

How did you get on with the speeding offence?

I would refer you to your other thread but, in a nutshell, you sound churlish to say the least

He sounds supportive and happy for you, while you sound overly sensitive and a bit complex

The person sounds supportive and being nice. You’ve now dragged this being unappreciated thing on a bit . Their ‘you’re better be’ sounds lighthearted and it seems to me, like you’re the one starting the argument.
All you needed to say was thanks, very happy that I got it and leave it at that.

If you like this guy and flirt with him then that’s another thing altogether. You’ve come across as slightly rude to me in these messages.

WTF?

I think your employer should be rethinking your promotion. Maybe just stop the weird text chats and get on with your job?

He's being supportive and your going off on one being defensive

OP, your other thread was fairly conclusive. Why are you asking again?

How very odd. Why were you attacking the poor bloke who certainly was not telling uou off. You sound difficult

Just read an almost identical thread by you on AIBU about how ‘offended’ you feel by this conversation. Everyone said YABU, but you still made another thread this morning. Did you hope by putting the same thing in Relationships with a different title you’d get a different response? You won’t. For the record, Yes, you do sound ‘rude and unappreciative’ and Yes, you are being unreasonable.

Yes. Yes it does.
And the 11 odd threads over a a 2 week period repeating the same things over and over (speeding fine, hots for a colleague, this) indicate you have way too much time on your hands.

You were rude because their tone was obviously light hearted when they said you 'd better be, it was a joke. You got so defensive and rude. You just sound so negative and moany.

Your colleague is having a bit of light hearted banter. You sound rude, over dramatic, high maintenance and frankly ridiculous.

Is he the one you fancy?

Can’t get my head around why you sent this last message? What has the bloke done wrong? A simple thank you would have been the appropriate answer.