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Need help with this girl

29 replies

CNP1225 · 07/12/2023 18:48

Not sure how to play this tbh
I like a girl I work with and she is definitely is into me as well. She’ll initiate conversations with me, she’s drunk texted me on numerous occasions, she’ll tell me random shit about her day, etc… However I’m 99% sure there is another guy she is interested in and I’ve always had a hunch but now I’m pretty sure that’s what’s going on. This hunch I had is the reason I’ve never asked her out or reciprocated her flirting beyond just being engaged in our conversations over text. Hell I’m even her second best friend on Snapchat which means I’m at least somewhere near the top of her list
she's also known him a lot longer than she’s known me, she actually used to refer to him as her “friend” until I started getting suspicious and realized that probably isn’t going on.

Maybe he really is just her best friend if something but I don't know, I’m just not gonna be responsive to her if she reaches out again, if she wants me she can come get me
My thoughts are that if she’s known this guy longer than she’s known me and is interested in both of us but he’s the only one who’s actively trying, then she probably likes me more? I don’t see why else a girl would still act really into a guy who doesn’t seem to reciprocate her feelings when she’s got another guy she’s known longer that’s actually trying to get her.

Does that have any basis in reality or am I stupid

OP posts:
Panaa · 08/12/2023 00:44

@Watchkeys You're welcome 😃

tuvamoodyson · 08/12/2023 15:14

Panaa · 08/12/2023 00:18

'Girl' is commonly used in plenty of places to describe women.

It's even in dictionaries.

Normally it's used to describe young women but where I live there doesn't seem to be an age.
My granny calls all of her friends 'girls' and she's in her 80s.

I’m 66….everybody under 50 is a girl to me!!

DatingDinosaur · 08/12/2023 17:26

I find, in a romance/attraction/dating context, the use of "girl" is a bit creepy, unless you're still in school.

but I suppose the use of it in the OP's post is in-keeping with the writing style, which comes across as full of teenage angst.

You asked her out yet OP? It really could be as simple as "hey, do you fancy grabbing a bite to eat after work?".

Wouldyouguess · 08/12/2023 17:34

" if she wants me she can come get me"
But she has approached you many times and you are playing hard to get, so if I was her I'd go with the other guy.
If YOU want her, go and get her.

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