When your date is waaaay cuter than you...

[Pinkbonbon]

OK so it was late and I was thinking with my fanny - Never the best time to bumble swipe lol.

Right swiped a cutie. You know the sort you would normally skip as they look like they tumbled out of a catalogue for mens swimwear xD anyway we got chatting and he's asked me out for drinks.

Now here's the thing, I'm talking to the people and I think I'd be brave enough to date them but this guy...feels like something I'd have to work up to. I'd want to look my very best before going. If I'm being blunt, sorry to use numbers but- say I'm a 5 on a good day. He's an 8.5 easily.

Also it's winter and I've nothing decent to wear. I'm going to have to freeze! And I threw out my foundation and I'm too pale so I'm going to have to try to tan and find a new foundation. And my eyebrows need waxed! (And then you can't wear makeup up for a few days...so do I skip that? But they're bushy af lol) and...(hyper ventilates #^=÷€/×_£€÷+?!!)

So... do I put it off till I look my best?
Or...go and wing it?
Or...skip it entirely?

Because it could be a good boost.
But could equally make me feel shit.

Some people in my house have the cold atm too so... I'm thinking maybe I aught to go ASAP incase I put it off a week and get sick :/

Not sure what he's after. Probably just fun. I guess I could ask?
Tbh I'm not really looking for a roll around. Just company for an evening (probably would snog him though haha). He's only in town for a few weeks to maybe a month.

Just not sure how to play this.
Anyone else dated a little...above their comfort zone? How did it go?

I went on dates with 2 guys that were drop dead gorgeous. The first one was 3 years younger than me and definitely after some fun. We snogged and it was glorious but ultimately it wasn't for me. The second one I'm still seeing 17 months on 😁
You don't know what is going on in his head. He clearly found you attractive and you may think you're a 5, he may class your a solid 9. I would ask what he's after though if you're only interested in a serious relationship.

Definitely go, what's the worst that can happen? Treat yourself to a new foundation if it makes you feel better ( though it's fine to be pale in winter!) tame your eyebrows a bit and find something to wear that you feel confident in. Go with a view to having a bit of flirty fun and just go with the flow...oh and definitely post an update!

I don’t understand this idea of rating people as numbers and then comparing them. People find different things attractive. Some guys like tall women others prefer short. I like guys with lots of body hair and a big nose, other women might not. If you’re both healthy and reasonably physically fit then you’re on the same level.

Most men prefer natural and not made up with waxed brows etc.

Go. Be yourself and enjoy it.

If he’s only in town a few weeks he’s not looking for anything serious so put your best outfit on, gave some fun and enjoy

PS - I have my eyebrows waxed and put make up on the sane evening

Just here to find out how the date goes!

If he is only in town for a few weeks, I would put money on him being married and doing a disappearing act after you've had sex.

Also double check that is his pic, as people use outdated or even not their pic on OLD

He's from America and is this way for work.

I'm not doubting the pics as he has a few.
(Of course you never know tbf).

I suppose the worst that can happen is he's a creepy, handsy sort that thinks I'm flattered to have the attention so he's on a promise.

Also speaking to another lad who is a decade younger than me (local though). Get a good vibe from him and he's just asked me what I'm doing over the next few days so...

Guess that'll be two risks I'm taking this week lol

He is looking for a fling, he lives in the US and is only here for a month or less. Flings standards are not like what you would choose for long term, its just about sex and 'fun'. He might think a less attractive woman will put out more due to feeling flattered that he chose her or could be you are too harsh on yourself and too generous in evaluating his looks.He probably swiped on lots of women, I think you shouldn't feel too flattered and to remember your own good qualities rather than put him on a pedestal.

I would try and look like the photo he swiped on. If you were glam and natural in the pics just do what you feel comfortable with. The big thing are hair, figure and bone structure, I cant imagine fake tan making someone hotter, you either are or aren't.

He's only in town for a few weeks to maybe a month.

He's not looking to date, he's looking to have sex with as many women as possible in a month, and you have shown interest. It doesn't matter about your eyebrows, or what coat you wear. If you're worried about feeling like shit, and being ghosted after sleeping with him or when it's clear you won't be sleeping with him will make you feel like shit, then don't do it. If you just want casual sex for a month then go for it.

If he's over here for work I'd assume it's a fun shag/one night stand with dinner sort of date really.

And omg. Please never, ever, put yourself down just because your insecurity tells you that you are 'less good looking' than he is. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

If you're only looking for company for the evening, just go.

It's winter, being pale is fine. Some blokes like pale and natural. Tweeze to tidy up if you think you must.

If it doesn't go well, you can blame lack of fake tan. 😂
If it does go well, you'll have fun.

Oh no I'm not insecure, just realistic.
It's OK to think you're an average looking person when you're an average looking person 🤷
I like me. I'm just not a supermodel 😆

I'm not worried about feeling used as it's obviously a short term thing. Im just worried I might feel uncomfortable if I'm not on top form. I mean, you want to feel pretty when you're with a handsome guy.

Doubt I'd be sleeping with him. I mean you never know but tbh from experience, it's all down hill after the snogging on one night stands. But I'm new to the area and thought it would be nice to meet a handsome chap for a few drinks :)

Be careful. Types like this are normally using dating apps for easy sex. They know their looks will attract many women and women who perceive themselves to be less attractive are even easier prey due to their lower self esteem and wanting to keep the guy. They will be interested for some time then down the line dump the woman to start the cycle with a new conquest.

By all means go on the date @Pinkbonbon but don't get invested in him. Also raise your self esteem! He's not automatically a better catch just because of his looks (which are subjective anyway). You will have much going for you, and remember as the woman, you're in control of the relationship. Don't come across to him that you're grateful he's giving you the time of day 👍

Just read the part he's only here for a month. Yet he's on a dating app! No point worrying about what to wear - he's definitely only after using as many women as possible for sex until he goes back - whatever you do, don't sleep with him! Or even kiss him on first date. It'll only boost his ego.

Unless you want to and it seems like you'd have as much fun as he would.