Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Concerned about a friend

5 replies

Fassbender2020 · 06/12/2023 20:11

Im hoping I'm worrying about nothing and happy to be told so

My friend got out of an 8 year relationship (he split with her). She wasn't OK for obvious reasons and after a year then got into another relationship. All fine but it's from 0 to 100 and they were moving in together after 6 months until he got cold feet and split up with her. She's told me and I can see she's not ok or healed in any way but is now going on lots of dates and sleeping with/getting involved very quickly with these men. She's been seeing someone 2 weeks and all profile photos of hers are now them together, posting lots of photos, spending all her free time together and ignoring other relationships. I hope I'm concerned over nothing and she's very happy, it's just out of character and the speed for it to be 'a relationship' after it's been a minute is, worrying

There's nothing I can do but be there for her but would that be concerning to others or should I just shut up and live and let live

OP posts:
Fassbender2020 · 06/12/2023 20:31

For context, if it matters, I've known her 12 years, we're in our 30s, she's a teacher and no children yet, though she would say otherwise with her 2 cats and rabbit...!

OP posts:
Tropie23 · 06/12/2023 21:06

I would be concered too. Have you tried speaking to her, even if it's just to see how she is doing? When is the last time you met her face to face? It makes such a difference

Fassbender2020 · 06/12/2023 22:01

I saw her 2 weeks ago and said it again, explaining I was concerned but as long as she was safe then I'm here for her. It's just very weird behaviour for her, I thought she was having some sort of slow breakdown

OP posts:
Seaoftroubles · 06/12/2023 22:48

I would be concerned for her too. Shes obviously hit the dating sites hard in an effort to get over her break up. I doubt this new relationship will end well but all you can do is be there for her and be ready to pick up the pieces when it all goes pear shaped.

Fassbender2020 · 06/12/2023 22:57

Thanks it helps I'm not going crazy. If anyone has read my other threads, my life has been completely turned upside down and she's not reacted how she normally would, she's normally great so I didn't know if it was me being oversensitive but it's doesn't seem healthy. If she was taking her time and getting to know people then I'd be less concerned but acting like a girlfriend after a couple of weeks is worrying

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page