Another manipulative boy? I'm heartbroken

[Alicew00]

We split up 2 months ago because I wanted help with chores and stop being lazy and he didn't like it so he ended it. After that he constantly Found ways to message me sent multiple likes on FB and even took my key when he collected his stuff and denied it. I've got my key now but for the last 3 weeks we've been in contact again and he asked me to fight for me him. I did my best I gave long speeches and even started seeing each other gradually but he's decided to tell he is done with me now. Ive never been this hurt in all my life. I just want him back. I don't know what I've done wrong. Last week he even asked me for my ring size to get married.
He text me this morning while he knew I was at work that he can't take the risk.
He also told me his ex kept going on at him to do chores.
Is he just a lazy boy?

I'm really hurt

He enjoys the drama and doesn't give a care about your feelings. You deserve much better. Find the strength, block him on all channels, buy some tissues, be heartbroken for a bit. Then go about meeting someone much nicer.

Yes, he's very lazy and entitled.

And cruel.

You're better off without him.

He's playing you like a fiddle. Pretending he might want to marry you so he can get you to act like his mother and run around after him.

Let somebody stupid enough to fall for it play that game with him. Tell him he's lazy and a time waster then block and move on. Don't waste your life on this idiot, there's hundreds of posts on here from women who have been strung along by this particular brand of man.

Block him and change your locks.

Have a relationship without living together.

OMG change your locks already!

I wouldn't be surprised if he'd copied the key.

Also block him on everything. He's an utter loser.

You are weaponising his childish behaviour by calling him a boy. He's a lazy man who is playing you like a fiddle

Stop calling him a ‘boy’. He sounds like a useless man. Don’t infantilise him but also have some higher standards for yourself. I’m 42 and certainly wouldn’t consider a relationship with someone I referred to as a boy.

How old are you?
His behaviour is very childish, but you are being dragged in

Last week he was apologising and now he's changed his mind. I've done pretty well not texting him back I think. I'm seeing your point of what he's doing.

He’s lazy and an arsehole and he’ll be enjoying getting you to jump through hoops for him. Please try to forget about him and move on. There are far better men out there!

Why are you letting him this nasty manipulative man to dictate.. ignore him, block take some timeout for yourself you need a nice man

A lazy boy? No OP, he’s a prick. Does he have any redeeming qualities at all? Men make up 50% of the population and you’re stuck on this one. Move on.

This is what happens when you date boys.

What does ‘ he asked me to fight for me him’ mean?

Change your locks asap. He sounds manipulative and seems to enjoy winding you up.

Do NOT engage.

he asked me to fight for me him.

But he's the one who couldn't be arsed to be a decent partner and dumped you when you challenged him on it.

Now he's messing you about because he can and making it clear that if you get back together you better STFU about him doing his share.

Basically he's pissing on you and telling you it's raining.

Don't be so daft as to get back with him.

How old is this "boy"? He certainly seems to act like a child.
Get rid of him. You deserve better

How old is this manchild?

Fuck that for a game of soldiers. Find a real man. One that does housework.

Look asking you for your ring size to propose you when you had been back together only 3 weeks. And AFTER HE decided to split up with you because you dare having boundaries 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

Asking you to fight for him - poor him, you didn’t run after him and let him do as he pleases! 🚩🚩🚩

So now he is dropping you again.
Of course, he got what he wanted - your attention, you been ‘hooked’ again. All very good for his ego.
You might even have agreed to relax your boundaries just for him (I’m guessing he sensed that you didn’t though) so it was a try wasn’t it?

This man was bad news on legs.
Block him again.
And however hard it is now, however how much you are hurting just now (and I appreciate you are - he did all the things to put you in that place, the love bombing etc…), it will get better. You will heal. You’ll see him fur who he is. And you’ll find happiness again.

You want him back yet you wanted your key back so bad ? Make up your mind .

Fyi, locks can be changed for under 50 quid

He didn't like it that you dumped him. So he "won" you back so he could have The Power and dump you.

Only silly little boys behave like that. So you are right to call him a boy.

He sounds like a pathetic arsehole. Why do you want him back?