Struggling daily with the emotional pain from the cheating, while he seems blissfully happy

[Thepinkcathedral]

Everyday I feel this awful aching in my heart for a man that left the children and I. He cheated and lied, then left for this women. He seems happy now in his new relationship with his women barely seeing his children. He has written me off as abusive and as just an annoyance in the way.

Meanwhile every waking moment of my life is dedicated to the children and their needs. I’m exhausted. I’m grieving. I am really struggling. Life feels so very unfair. I like to think I am a good person. I don’t understand what I did to deserve such pain. It hurts so badly.

I’m so sorry OP.

He is reframing you as abusive to disguise the guilt he feels. Everyone who knows you will know it’s bullshit. Even his own family.

I doubt he is blissfully happy even if he’s pretending to be. Life will catch up with him. His new partner will always worry he will change his mind. She knows he can cheat on a partner. What a start to their relationship!

You sound like you are doing all the right things for your children. Ask friends and family for help.

Grey rock the fuck out of him. Keep all communications short and factual.

It will get better. You will make a lovely life for you and DC. And one day you’ll be happy again I promise.

💐x

Oh its horrible I remember the feelings well… my exh had affair and wanted to be with OW. I was devastated - it turned my world upside down - they didnt last. I thought I’d never get over it but I did and am glad it happened.

It won’t be roses round the door for them… she’ll have on her mind him cheating on her..

Dont think of him think of you and children. Take one day at a time. Try and eat and get good rest. Exercise away that knot in your stomach. Read rosie green’s book and Paul mckennna how to get over broken heart.

Above all be kind to yourself - you are grieving so focus on yourself and your children.

How are you doing OP?

OP in the long run you are the winner. You have the children and your clean conscience. He has a new relationship which has yet to move on to the difficult stage all relationships go through.
Not easy now I know. Put yourself first whenever you can. He is not worth your headspace.

oh sweetheart.

You never did anything to deserve this. Sometimes bad things just happen. You just have to get through, one day at a time.