I don't know what to do

[Justanotherladyy]

Me and my girlfriend have been together over a year, we're still in school. Her parents do not like me for something I didn't even do, and it stings me that someone as important as her cannot go against her parents and tell them that we are still in touch even though they banned us. I love her very much, I understand how she is upset about her parents' behaviour too. But why has she never even taken initiative to atleast try to tell them that I'm not a bad influence? I sometimes feel like she doesn't want me to be introduced to her parents. Sometimes all of it comes out when I breakdown. What do I do? I want to be a good partner.

This sounds way too heavy for school aged children 😳 what are you, 16? Split up and have fun!

If she's not behaving the way you want a partner to behave, don't be her partner. She wasn't invented to do things the way you want her to, and if you can't respect her decisions, you're not a good match.

Maybe her parents would chuck her out if she went against them - if she's not at an age/in a position to support herself yet, then it's unfair of you to expect her to risk that (or her homelife turning to shit) for your sake.

Try to make her life easier, not harder.

Once you're both independent, if what her parents think still dictates her behaviour, then it would be different.

Give it a few years and take it very slowly, girls don't like it when you are too full on.

Although easy for me to say, you need to relax about all of this - her parents may just worry about her getting too involved and heavy with someone which is fair enough.

You need to lighten the situation and just simply enjoy spending time with each other. You dont need to think about being a partner that’s too much and not needed at this stage of your lives You just need fun and friendship.