First time posting here but need some advice as to how I get through this
Been married to my (d)h for ten years together for 17. 2x dc ages 14 &12.
We have not been getting in for a long time I am very sociable and like going out etc often with family and back to families house where we will party until small hours . Dh was always part of this but now refuses to participate. In the last year he has taken massive offence if I am out later than say 11pm even though he knows I'm with family so never any hint of anything appropriate. He just takes fence at the time abs has started to cause massive arguments whenever I go out.
After arguments he calls me all sorts of names even in front of the dc things like fat c**etc
He has even locked me out of the house and refused to open the door so I had to sleep in she.
Over the years he has gone into these moods very regularly and often refused to come on preplanned outings with the DC even when they were looking forward to them.
Although we are married it is his house. He is always telling me to get out and he hates me. I pay money towards him monthly pay for g&e and buy all food in the house so make a fair contribution .
Where don't stand if I leave him and how do I go about getting accommodation ? I am really struggling money wise at the minute so probably don't even have enough for deposit although I do work full time .
I just don't know where to start in regards to splitting up. I am heartbroken he hates me so much and says these things but I'm at the point where I think it's unhealthy for my children to hear a man say these things to his wife