Feel betrayed narc moved on. Help

[Feelingbad23]

Brief background ex turned nasty when kids came along. Emotionally verbally abusive and there is some form of alcahol abuse which only became apparent when kids came along. From doing a lot of research he is probably a covert or malignant narcasist. He ticks every box from lack of empathy to discsrd cycle which he did to me many times. He did the final discard about 6 months ago and has made my life hell with constant threats of court anytime he hasn't gotten his own way. Court is going ahead and I am nervous but also because I know its really the end. He has trauma bonded me to him and even though I know he is toxic part of me hoped he would come back an change. He told me all along there was no one else but my gut knew different and recently discovered he is already on his second fling. He swore blind there hadn't been anyone else but he has been sleeping with someone 6 weeks after he left while I was still hoping things could be saved. I am in counselling but it's not helping. I feel finding out about the other women has sent me back to square one and I am utterly heartbroken. Cant sleep can't eat and just feel distressed as he is still denying anyone else. Has anyone been through this and come out the other side. I'm holding it together for the kids but when I'm alone it consumes me.

Sorry you're going through this op.

Have you supportive family?
How old are your little ones?

I'm asking partly as I'm wondering if you could take a few days away...maybe in the sun? Sometimes being able to leave everything behind for a few days can help us reset. If you could leave the kids with family maybe?

I mean you could also take them but don't let him know/block him for a few days so he can't bother you. Maybe don't tell anyone, just go.

A few days break might do you the world of good. Take a book and just relax by the pool somewhere.

That asside, have him blocked on everything bar one method of contact. A burner phone you can leave in the drawer and only check once per day perhaps? And then, never reply to him about anything other than the kids. And even then, step away for ten minutes before responding so ge can't goad you into knee jerk reactions.

Stay off social media so you aren't tempted to snoop. Tell your friends and family you neither want to hear anything about him or for them to tell him anything about you.

Cold turkey is best. But as you have kids this just isn't fully possible. Can you have relatives do any pick ups and drop offs so you don't need to see him? If not - keep them brief. Stay in your car. Don't go into his home or let him into yours. Look up the grey rock technique to help you handle time spent around him. It's basically about being boring and not giving him reactions or info about yourself.

OP I'm sorry you're going through this and I just wanted to say you are worth so much more then being with an unreliable narcissist.
I know it's hard to see it now but he did you a huge favour by moving on and allowing you to build a better life for yourself.
You will need to grieve as it's all so fresh but in time you will be able to see your life is better without him and you'll just feel sorry for his next victim.