Has anyone married an asexual or person with v low libido and did i it work out?

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Are you happy and accepting?
Did you have a child or children?
I suppose I'm asking if it's possible to be happy if you are a sexual person and your oh isn't?

I did.

We broke up over he weekend. I ask frequently, there's always a reason why its the wrong time to ask. He likes cuddles and enjoys affection, just not sexually.

I understand, but it gnaws away at my self esteem and feelings of worth. I do many things for him which I find testing and make sacrifices, as does he in other directions. I need affection and it seems that giving it is all on his terms.

Sexual affection and intimacy are really important and feeling that somehow you fail to attract your mate, even when trying hard to do so, is soul destroying.

If I knew this at the beginning of the relationship, I would have thought about it much more.

It's a huge personal sacrifice, and rarely one worth making.

PS I am not saying it's impossible to be happy under such circumstances, just that it's much more difficult.

Yes... so far, I'm still here (5 years).

It's not easy. You have the constant feeling of being rejected (emotionally and physically). As I've said previously, it's largely hormonal imbalances of my partner, although it wasn't much better at the beginning. Initially, it was infrequent but OK, probably due to the initial excitement/ honeymoon period, but now it's once a month if I'm lucky. Passionate kisses are out. Huge are quick. Sex is if you're lucky enough to catch that rare moment.

Unless you have a non existent sex drive I don't see how it can work. If both partners have no sex drive I can see it working well.