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What is his intentions

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Babygirlmum · 04/12/2023 13:25

Me and my ex partner have not been in a relationship for two years, however we have a child together and we have been seeing each other over the past year on and off, he confesses his feelings to me every now and again and tells me he can't move on from me, and then we will call things off and won't make ago of things and this happens all the time however my mum passed in September and he was being supportive and asked to try and make a go of things, he invited me to his house where him and his family had our daughter and they was being supportive, we was doing stuff as a family, we was getting on, we did have a small disagreement but nothing much, I stayed the week, he dropped me home as it was a long distance relationship and he was never the same with me again, after telling me he wanted to be there for me, he cares for me a lot, he has feelings for me and he wants to see where we go, he's looking forward to building with me. And then all of a sudden he didn't want to know, I am still trying to get my head around this, as I feel like he has messed me about massively at my most vulnerable time, his mum asked did we have sex and was apparently disappointed in him, I don't understand this, and now he is saying he has moved on and he doesn't want to know me, I can't quite understand as I was the only girl for him just a matter of weeks ago.

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Watchkeys · 05/12/2023 18:00

What does thinking about him do for you? How do the conversations with him go, in your head? Are you angry? Loving? Calm? Laughing?

Babygirlmum · 05/12/2023 18:44

@Watchkeys honestly, makes me feel horrible makes me miserable and this time of year is when we met, so all things Christmassy was our thing together, talking to him is never a conversation it's always a argument as he's just so nasty and negative towards me, he honestly must hate me, as there is no way you would treat someone the way he has treated me.

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Watchkeys · 05/12/2023 19:43

Yes, I understand that. But, in your head, when he's not there, and you can't stop thinking about him, what are the thought processes? Is he nice to you, in your head? Do you resolve things? Do you yell at him? Do you replay things? What does your head do with him, when it's let loose, and he's not there to hold it back?

Babygirlmum · 05/12/2023 20:40

@Watchkeys all different, some bad some good, missing happy memories, being sad over stuff and being angry for the way he has treated me, for example Christmas markets, something we done together I will think about happy times, things as a family going taking our daughter to see Santa together, stuff he promised me to look forward to and then he just lets me down like this, he has gone from wanting to build with me and look after me, he a family etc to me being the worst person he has ever met. Yes he's nasty

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Watchkeys · 05/12/2023 22:00

So you think about the good stuff and are also angry at him for taking that good stuff away? Does that roughly sum it up?

Babygirlmum · 05/12/2023 22:32

@Watchkeys yes hence the fact I have to block him to move forward and because he is messing with my mental health, there is not much more I can take from him, we are waiting for a order regarding DD and I never want contact with him ever again in my life for the way he has made me feel and treated me at all my worst times in life, pregnancy, and the passing of my both parents, he is disgusting.

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Watchkeys · 05/12/2023 22:37

he is messing with my mental health

Your mental health is yours. Take responsibility for it. Why is he in charge of it? You're saying he should have a mind of his own... don't you?

Babygirlmum · 05/12/2023 22:46

@Watchkeys yes, he is making my mental health really bad, I am not good when in contact with him, when I'm not I'm better but I always think about him, maybe this is normal, maybe he does the same I don't know but I am ready to move forward.

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Watchkeys · 05/12/2023 22:55

he is making my mental health really bad

He isn't. You are in charge. Not him.

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