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Found bf on dating app

10 replies

Lisbon2012 · 03/12/2023 21:04

Hi all,
I just need some perspective here and a bit of support
I met a guy “organically” in the beginning of summer, he told me he used to be on a dating app but decide to come off it to meet someone IRL. He confirmed he’s off it as he is now waiting to date me. We started seeing each other regularly a couple of times a week, always messaging.
3 months in to it a friend told me she saw him on this same dating app he was supposed to come off it.
I confronted him about it and he said it’s a dormant account he has not been using it. He then said he will deleted it.
Fast forward to a few weeks ago I had a funny gut feeling, I asked a friend to check if he is still there and fair enough she found him again, he updated his profile and changed location.

We had conversations about not seeing other people and he confirmed he was and is only seeing me.
I am so disappointed, feel like a complete fool for trusting him in the first place.

I don’t know if I should even say anything to him or just block him and move on.
he will probably just bullshit me with excuses

OP posts:
HunterBidensBurnerPhone · 03/12/2023 21:07

Well you've caught him in a big fat lie haven't you.

Up to you what you do with that information. But I doubt 'lying' is one of the qualities you look for in a partner.

samestyle · 03/12/2023 21:09

I think I'd put myself on the app and ignore/block him.

SamW98 · 03/12/2023 21:11

He’s talking absolute crap. If he paused or deleted his profile then your friend wouldn’t be able to see it and if he’s updated it then he’s still active.

Youve caught him lying and he appears to be still looking for women online - not exactly a catch is he?

appalledandtired · 03/12/2023 21:12

Bullet dodged

Cosmosforbreakfast · 03/12/2023 21:13

Block him and move on, he's not worth wasting any more time on.

appalledandtired · 03/12/2023 21:17

samestyle · 03/12/2023 21:09

I think I'd put myself on the app and ignore/block him.

This, or send him a message saying 'Bye Bye'

AllAroundMyCat · 03/12/2023 21:20

Just let him go.

Milliemoos5 · 03/12/2023 21:32

The harsh reality is that if he’s on the app then he’s chatting to/meeting and having sex with other women. When we think of it that way it’s usually enough to repulse us into binning them

lovinglaughingliving · 03/12/2023 22:17

I would get your friend to message him and arrange to meet then both turn up together!

SamW98 · 03/12/2023 22:25

lovinglaughingliving · 03/12/2023 22:17

I would get your friend to message him and arrange to meet then both turn up together!

Ooh I love this. Do it OP 🤣

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