WWYD - 4th date ?

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So I've had 3 dates with this older man and he's asked me on all 3 dates. He's consistent with dates and plans etc texts every day. We slept
Together on the 3rd date and it was good and been texting me since. Asked to take me away at Xmas and said he would prefer
If I didn't go out on any other dates with anyone and he's invested in me etc can't see us getting serious etc and I really like him
But I am trying to not get emotionally invested as I've been so hurt in the past.
My question is for a 4th date should
I ask him out ? Or I was going
To invite him over.
WWYD shall I let him still
Keep asking me or me ask him.
Thanks xx

*can see us getting serious sorry

I don't think he has the right to request that after 3 dates. Do you want to be exclusive with him?

Has he mentioned himself not dating others, coming off apps? it should be a mutual decision. I think sometimes it's easy to get carried away in the first few weeks, you are right to be cautious, no harm in asking him for the 4th date you both have to put effort in.

I'd be worried about lovebombing at this stage if he's already asking to take you away for Xmas and doesn't want you to see other people. Feels a bit much so soon, why the rush?

But as to your question, and if you're happy with the pace its moving, I would go ahead and ask him out. Shows you're interested and not just being a passenger.

I think it's natural to have the conversation about being exclusive if you're now sleeping with each other, I'd definitely want to know if someone was also having sex with other people. Just ask him when you see him if he wants to be exclusive surely !

I don't think there's anything wrong with requesting that when you're sleeping with someone.

The other person is under obligation to say yes, and the person asking can make a decision on whether they want to keep dating based on that.

@Ollifer I think he asked her to be exclusive.

Yeah, why not suggest the next date, OP?

I wouldn't start just inviting him over though, keep having proper dates - just getting into netflix and chill in the early stages sets a really low bar for effort.

I think he's asked her to be exclusive, she's asking if she should suggest the 4th date.

Go for it OP - nothing to lose

After 3 dates I would absolutely want to know if they were exclusive with me, in fact I would not have progressed to date 3's activities without that conversation. Ok everyone is different but I didn't want to invest my time into seeing someone who was seeing other women, my guess is that guy thinks like me, nothing wrong with that.

Take it as a positive. Very few men are being that good at communicating their intentions after so few dates. If you're feeling this is right then tell him you'd like to be exclusive and yes, suggest a date if you're interested in him. It shows youre keen

"Asked to take me away at Xmas and said he would prefer
If I didn't go out on any other dates with anyone "

That's flagging up a bit of a controlling vibe to me.

I would let him putting with the effort. Just in case is one of those that as soon as you are in to them they relax really badly. Don't show him all your aces even if you like him a lot is far to early.
Agree with the exclusivity. No one wants the clams as a Xmas present and you know, there is people who do things in different ways.

That was my thoughts too. If OP had says he'd asked her if she wanted them to be exclusive that would be ok but she's says that he's asked her not to see anyone else with no info as to whether he'd do the same.

"My question is for a 4th date should I ask him out ? "

Yes. But don't invite him home.

See how he handles not being the one in control of the plans..

Proceed with caution.