Would this bother anyone else?

[AmazingDayz]

Would this bother anyone else or am I being silly? My mum always has my brother's children (nieces) but never ever has mine ever. I've asked and she just makes up excuses or says no so I don't ask anymore. She has them at least weekly and sometimes overnight monthly. She even collects them from school. She also posts constant pics of them on her WhatsApp daily but never any of my children. Would this bother anyone else? Now I'm not saying she HAS to have them I just don't get the different treatment? is anyone else's mum like this or just mine? I'm not referring to grandparents that won't have grandkids specifically ones that treat them differently?

A good friend of mine has parents who only like babies. They were the same with her siblings’ children and her elder siblings had already warned her this was the case. They were hopeless grandparents whilst the various grandchildren were aged between about 2 and 10 but got better again after that.

wow your mum is a total and utter bitch - i am really sorry. I would totally cut mine off for this

why on earth would you think you were being silly? Her behaviour is despicable

I would ask her to explain why she doesn't want to build a relationship with your children and point out that it will be very hurtful for them as they get older. If she breaks down in apologetic tears and gives an honest explanation that offers you something to work with, something that can be resolved, then go from there. Otherwise - start distancing yourself. NC if you feel you can manage it. She can't be allowed to damage your children's self-worth.

Because I know a lot of people on here like to go on about grandparents not having to babysit and no one should expect it or is owed a babysitter but it’s not that it’s that she treats them so different, I wouldn’t mind if she didn’t have them but it’s the fact she has my brothers children constantly whilst ignoring mine. Also the constant pics all over WhatsApp just feels like she is rubbing it in a bit. We don’t have much contact anymore and I’ve backed off a lot over the last few years and rarely see or speak to her now (she use to have mine when they were babies not since they’ve got older) she hasn’t had them in around 6 years now since my brothers children came along.

Does she ever comment on the fact that she rarely sees you anymore? Do you have any other siblings and what do they think? Do you get on with your brother and how does he react?
She is completely out of order as a grandma and is very hurtful to you and your children. Is there a grandad here and what does he think?

Gosh OP that is so hurtful, I'm so sorry.

As a granny, I am so careful to be scrupulously fair with my adult DS and adult DD and childcare or babysitting etc.

What I do for one I do for the other - it has lead to some busy times but I couldn't treat them differently.

Christmas presents I spend the same and also make sure they have roughly the same number as they are still young so don't understand the idea that different things cost different amounts.

I could never treat one set differently and my adult children would be rightly angry and hurt if I did.

I can imagine your mum has driven a wedge between you and your brother too, which is so sad.

Are you in contact with the other grandparents? Would that be a relationship worth pursuing?

You aren't wrong to be angry and hurt OP. Sending a motherly and grandmotherly hug to you.