Not sure how to end things

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I've been with DP for 8 years and living together for 5 years. I have 3 DC and he has 3 DC. He moved in with me after he lost his job and as I was at Uni it worked as he could watch kids whilst I finished finally year of Uni. I started working straight after Uni so he still stayed at home with the kids. Now my DC are older and we only have his DC at weekend he could work but keeps making excuses. It's putting a financial strain on us as we struggle on just my wage alone. He also doesn't do enough around the house despite being home all day. He said last night when I got home from work we could clean the kitchen today as he finds it to much.

He is also having an impact on my oldest DD who has said she will be going into University to study on her time off as he has been constantly moaning at her for the slightest things. It's reached the stage where I think I should just end it but I keep putting it off as he has nowhere else to go since he moved in with me.

He sounds like a total loser. Kick him out.

He's massively taking advantage of you
It's not your fault he refuses to work, contribute or act like a grown up!
Time to show him the door

You just need to say it's not working for you anymore and you need him to move out. Don't put up with the lazy dick.

And priorities should be your DD and you. He sounds very entitled.

I'm amazed no one has mentioned cocklodger yet!

You don’t stay in a relationship that isn’t working for you because they have nowhere to go. You don’t have to kick him out that minute, tell him it’s over, you’ll give him couple week to sort something but then you need him out. With any luck he’ll take himself off straight away but either way where he goes isn’t your problem, he needs to get a job and find a place to live

Just explain you're not happy and want to end things and he needs to move out asap and in any event by the end of the year (i wouldn't give more than 4 weeks).

His financial position/housing isn't your problem. He has chosen not to work because he currently has you as his safety net.

He'll at the very least be able to find a house share.

Your priority needs to be you and your kids. I wouldn't be able to tolerate someone picking at my child. He sounds far too comfortable in this set up and is simply taking advantage.