Christmas parallel parenting

[TitaniumTess]

Abusive ex. Years of post separation abuse. We're now communicating through an app, which is much better. We've got a 6-year old child together.

Family court locked down pretty clearly what Xmas arrangements are. My ex wants to change them. I've tried to accommodate it and been polite. He's had a big strop in the app and effectively said not to bother. I've said that I was trying to help. Why do they have to make everything so hard work? I still dread getting the app notifications. Any tips? Xxxx

Thanks. I have the app notifications turned off.

When he is on a run, I turn off Yahoo too, so I don't hear anything at all.

I have tried the 'noted.' I'll do that more.

There's loads of police logs already x

Don't tell him anything, basically. He will just take notes and use it against you. Like anything , this takes prwctivet but you can get there. Ideally at some point he will find someone else to vampire his energy off, although he might try the door periodically, it should settle down once he's not getting any from you.

Exactly! Who cares what he thinks? What he thinks of you is irrelevant because he's an irrelevant person!