Problems

[Sazzle136]

I been married for 10 years but for the past few years my husband gets mad at me for tiny little things and calls me horrible names which I don't like I tell him how it effects me but I'm always on wrong I have 3 children with special needs and on top of this my husband gives me a hard time everyday calls me names on tiny things what am I doing wrong I feel alone and can't speak to anyone how I feel

You’re not doing anything wrong. Sadly your husband is emotionally abusing you. Please call Womens Aid for help. 💐

I don't think he's doing I'm just not sure anymore he does everything for me anything I want but on tiny things I get called if I challenge it then I'm wrong I only needed a friend that's why I posted

You need help. Three children with special needs is a lot to cope with. Having a husband undermining you like that is unacceptable. Get professional help. You will need to set boundaries step by step until he treats you with respect, or leaves. That is the advice you will get here, and a friend will say the same.

When you ask “what have I done wrong” let me tell you this, nothing at all.
You have a full plate of responsibility, and your husband shouting at you is unnecessary and cruel.

Any friend would tell you that you’re doing nothing wrong. He’s destroying you with his comments. Have you got a social worker? Do you have any family supporting you?

A chat with Womens Aid could be very helpful. I’m sorry to hear what he’s putting you through. You really don’t need it,

Calling someone horrible names isn't something a loving partner does.
It's something a bully does.

I know you say he does everything for you but... a. What do you mean by that? And b. Why would that mean its ok to bully you?

You don't deserve being bullied in your own home op.

I mean like he provides for me but the names he calls me like pathetic I'm autistic and I can take things badly I have no family that care I left them 10 years ago when I got married

If there’s one thing Mumsnet has taught me, it’s how vulnerable a person can be if they come from an unloving family. That said, are you sure they don’t care or is that just what he’s told them?

@Sazzle136 - there are ways of abusing people which don’t involve hitting them or even shouting at them. Endless, nasty criticism and name-calling is also a form of abuse. It sounds like your set-up is that he earns money and you care for your 3 children. They’re also his, aren’t they? So that is the division of labour you’ve chosen and he should respect that. To make you less dependent on him financially: are you getting all the funds you’re entitled to by way of benefits?