He won’t work on himself

[Hannnahx]

It’s been a tough 2 years for me and DH since welcoming our son, we grew distant. Lots of arguments and parenting threw a whole spanner in the works

I am convinced DH has some sort of anger , quite low level? Anger issues. He blows his lid so easily over little things and just has then

He’ll come back in (he’s went out refused to tell me where) and blame me

But the thing is when we’ve had our big chat, I’ve took away what I need to work on and I am actively trying.

he never does

I’m feeling so sad because does this mean I just have to throw the towel in? We have a son he’s so young and I feel I should work on us as we were a loving couple once and I miss it

but has he checked out ?

You can't work on a relationship on your own. Is he off with another woman when he refuses to tell you where he is?

Might be better to split now - your little boy wouldn't even remember you being together when he's older.

It's not a great environment to grow up in with arguing, resentful parents. Regarding his "anger issues" - that's not healthy for your son to live with either.

As pp said, you can't work on 'us' on your own.

The best thing for a child is a healthy living environment.

A home where dad is always taking out his anger on his mother is not a healthy home.

Perhaps counciling as a couple would be a possibility but tbh...with anger issues that sound like they might be abuse...it's not advisable.

Sorry op but yes it sounds like it's time to go.

He's not obliged to work on being who you want him to be.