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How do you cope when they move on so quick after marriage?

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nonska · 02/12/2023 19:19

The feeling is awful. I feel absolutely worthless. Married for 6 years. Within a few weeks hes in a new relationship.

Anyone else had this?

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Toooldtoworry · 02/12/2023 19:22

Yes, although he moved in with the other woman I didn't know about the day after we sold the house. Tbh he was abusive to me during the marriage so I wasn't that bothered.

Giraffescarf · 02/12/2023 19:26

But it's because they can't cope alone. It's not that he didn't love you, it's that he needs security, stability, sex and some housework. Don't take it personally.

SamW98 · 02/12/2023 19:28

Some people can’t be on their own. It’s not you, it’s them honestly.

Personally I think it’s much healthier to take time for yourself after a relationship ends rather than rushing into a rebound.

Imperfectp3rf3ction · 02/12/2023 19:30

He either already lined her before you finished or it's a rebound

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nonska · 02/12/2023 19:36

Imperfectp3rf3ction · 02/12/2023 19:30

He either already lined her before you finished or it's a rebound

He has a lot of narcissistic traits so he's following it perfectly. He spent the first few weeks of our separation begging for me back whilst I suspect talking to her to have her as a back up. But my guess is she was in the picture towards the end.

He has no where to live so needs somewhere to go I suppose.

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ThisHouseWillBeTheDeathOfMe · 02/12/2023 19:45

He has no where to live so needs somewhere to go I suppose.

You've literally just answered your whole post.

Poor woman. She's simply a convenience. She'll find it out sooner or later. Feel thankful he's not your problem anymore.

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nonska · 02/12/2023 20:12

ThisHouseWillBeTheDeathOfMe · 02/12/2023 19:45

He has no where to live so needs somewhere to go I suppose.

You've literally just answered your whole post.

Poor woman. She's simply a convenience. She'll find it out sooner or later. Feel thankful he's not your problem anymore.

Well...he currently lives with his mum but he's almost 42. Not exactly great is it?

I'm not surprised he's found someone else so easily. He's attractive and charming. It's really annoying.

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SamW98 · 02/12/2023 20:14

No one falls in love quicker than a man who needs a roof over his head.

Thisisworsethananticpated · 02/12/2023 20:15

That relationship will turn to shit eventually

and his new GF will hear him bitterly mention you so many times she will stalk you online

mark my words

Thisisworsethananticpated · 02/12/2023 20:15

SamW98
😂😂😂

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nonska · 02/12/2023 20:19

Thisisworsethananticpated · 02/12/2023 20:15

That relationship will turn to shit eventually

and his new GF will hear him bitterly mention you so many times she will stalk you online

mark my words

If she does, she will see the work im doing on myself and that i follow many narcissistic abuse pages. I'm a private person but I leave that all public.

She will also see the amazingly close bond that i have with his daughter still - my step daughter. So I can't be that bad. He is 100% playing the victim with her.

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nonska · 02/12/2023 20:21

SamW98 · 02/12/2023 20:14

No one falls in love quicker than a man who needs a roof over his head.

Lol very true. But then he did the same with me 8 years ago and I fell for it. I couldn't get rid of him. He had absolutely nothing. Lived with his mum, in shit loads of debt (he still is) and had zero possessions apart from a tv.

The same thing has happened again. He's lost absolutely everything

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