I've been with my partner several years. We live apart and totally financially separate. I love him and we get on well, no plans to live together etc as we are both divorced with kids.
He has had some financial issues over the years, usually relating to high maintenance payments and an acrimonious divorce, along with a financially irresponsible ex.
A couple of years ago I advised him about money issues (I'm quite good with money and financially stable). He dismissed/ignored my concerns. Today he revealed he's got big debt problems and basically bankrupt. I have been kind about it but it was also a bit startling and I did get quite cross because I'd warned him this may happen.
The next part I'm quite worried about too - I can understand he's upset and panicking, perhaps that I'll leave/give up on him. But he is declaring a lot of love and suggesting he'd like to marry/live with me. Of course I've told him he needs to sort his legal/debt position before I'd consider commitment. I dont know if he's just panicking or whether I'm being seen as a 'solution' though.
I dont know what to do, it is sad to see him suffering, but obviously I can't subsidise him and his ex, I have myself and kids who I work and provide for. Any thoughts?