Who do you talk to…?

[Spinningbrain]

I’m having a tough time at the moment at home marriage wise, it’s a complicated story I can’t be bothered to type but who do you talk to when you need to? I’m struggling with it at the moment and on the verge of calling our employee assistance thing at work that I think is by Health Assured just so I can get it all out.

Husband
Local mum friend
My craft group
Little less local friend before motherhood
Little less less local old old friend

WhatsApp group of a mixed bunch

Anyone who wants to listen and have a stab at advice?

My therapist!

Alternatively my older sister, who is a very supportive person and always gives good advice.

Or my younger sister if I just want someone to bitch with, drink wine and discuss putting in a new patio.

But honestly a therapist or mental health professional is great, just in impartial person to offload it all onto judgement free.

Honestly, no one. I'm having marriage issues and I don't feel I have anyone I can talk to.

30-days only thread or on here in Relationships

I wouldn't have anyone to talk to.
I think I'd probably think about writing it here then be afraid of the vipers and keep it to myself.

We had a horrible year at home, too. Recovering from it now, but divorce was on the cards… Mum & my best friend were both great.

My sister, not so much. Is there anyone IRL that you’d confide in?

My best friend. I can talk to her about anything and vice versa. We are always there to support each other no matter what

If you can find somewhere private and a pen and paper, write it all down.
Either as a journal or as a 'Dear Cathy & Clare'. It will help.

Definitely call your EAP if you have it. I'm doing it at the minute and it's great to vent to someone who doesn't know me. I don't tend to talk to people IRL

I always talk to my sister and vice versa when I feel there's no one else.
If you don't have anyone but really need to talk you could call the samaritans

My marriage has been through horrible horrible times this year. If I talk to my sisters they're supportive but it still feels massively disloyal as we're a close family and they love my husband and our lives are all so intertwined. My younger sis is still very much LTB but often I just want to vent.
I have one friend at work I talk to. We're not super close friends and it's literally at work only, but she doesn't know anyone in my circle, has never met my husband and is good at listening.
But it's so hard. I have a great bunch of friends who I go out with but they're from the school run, and I can't open up to them about real things at all.
What one really needs is a good friend who is sufficiently distant from a situation and present day "real life". I'm stuck too. Have lots to get off my chest at times and no-one to really talk to. And I can't afford a therapist.

Although I have a lovely family and a couple of lovely old friends who I know I could trust and confide in, when I was up against it I didn't tell them for an awful long time. Partly because I prefer to work through things in my own head until I've got it straight, and partly because (I know thisn't right) I don't like bothering or worrying other people. I'm not much of a confider. I'm sure there have been times in my life when I would have been better off confiding in someone, but it's just how I'm wired.

That side, neither family nor those 2 old friends live anywhere nearby so I don't see them too often, and I'm more likely to confide face to face in any case.

I find this forum can be very helpful too.

Nobody. It's our relationship and we respect each other enough to talk through anything that's bothering us. The day I have to talk to someone else is the day my respect for my partner deteriorates to an unacceptable level.

I learned how to transfer theraputic strategies into journaling. It’s great. No clock watching just as I’m getting to the crux of the issue and always available. It’s harder than bouncing off someone but as satisfying.