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What happens to the house when you decide to separate?

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FLOWER1982 · 01/12/2023 12:29

Just as the title says.. what happens you are married with kids, have a mortgage and decide to split? I work part time, would struggle to pay everything on my own. Would I need to move out and buy/rent somewhere else? Is it normal to carry on living in the house without dh? I don’t think I can afford to buy him out and not sure how reasonable he would be if I told him I didn’t want to be together. Anyone been in a similar situation or can advise? Thanks!

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Strictly1 · 01/12/2023 20:56

AlltheFs · 01/12/2023 19:12

Oh and how do I know? Many years at uni studying child psychology (UG and PG). I no longer work in that area but I am very well read on the subject and work with adults in HE that are living the effects. After learning differences it’s the most common thing we speak to students about.

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You may be well read but I work in a school where we see children negatively impacted everyday.

It’s not a decision that does not come without consequences for the children of the marriage. It may be positive for them if they no longer have to witness shouting etc but it’s often negative. Some parents are very selfish in the games they play post separation.

AlltheFs · 01/12/2023 21:03

Strictly1 · 01/12/2023 20:56

You may be well read but I work in a school where we see children negatively impacted everyday.

It’s not a decision that does not come without consequences for the children of the marriage. It may be positive for them if they no longer have to witness shouting etc but it’s often negative. Some parents are very selfish in the games they play post separation.

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Why have you quoted me?

Strictly1 · 01/12/2023 21:08

AlltheFs · 01/12/2023 21:03

Why have you quoted me?

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Apologies completely my error - it’s been a very long week.

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