Ex contesting non molestation order

[Yummychickenbuger]

Hi,
Can anyone please put my mind at rest! Im trying to be clear as possible.
I have a non molestation order against my ex for 1 year. We have a 19 month old baby he was controlling and physically abusive he snatched our child and bruised his head threw me into the wall I hurt my shoulder, head and a few days later had pain in my right side rib, police brought child back home to me. He was arrested and in custody for 24 hours released without charge. I went to the the doctors she prescribed me pain killers told her what happed she said yes its possible its from him slamming me into a wall. Today ive recieved an email from ex partners solicitor that she is going to see him tomorrow and he is contesting the non molestation order and he is getting witness statements and could it be extended till the end of the month I really dont know why she is asking me this?? I feel absolutely sick and worried for me and my child if it gets removed. He will absolutely without a doubt start harassing me again. I do have the support of IDVA who are so supportive but I can't help but worry. Please can anyone give some advice or have you been in this situation before? Thanks. Update his witness statement looks like ive beaten him up blood around his ear ect.. to be clear there was no blood when he snatched our son and I never ripped his earing out. So im really baffled and each paragraph is a lie.

Hi I am sorry you are going through this. The police and courts are not stupid, they will know the score. He sounds very manipulative and dangerous, just like the one I freed myself from 6 days ago!

Can you get legal representation through your IDVA?

when you go to court be very bold. Tell the court "This man is manipulative, abusive, controlling, violent, and a sociopathic liar. That is why I left him. He hurt me, and he hurt a little defenseless child. I see in the news all the time stories of courts feeling sorry for the men in these cases, and allowing them access to women and children again with no legal protection. But those women and chidden often end up dead. Are you going to just sit here while he lies to get his way and wait until my baby is dead to do something!!?"
That way it is part of the court record so if they capitulate and let him have his way and anything happens of a criminal nature, you can sue the judge.

@movingon47 I can't afford a solicitor im entitled to legal aid due to domestic abuse but all at full capacity

Has the order been granted yet? But he's contesting is that what you mean?
I also have a non Molestation order against my ex husband, it was served yesterday. He was not aware of the order until it was served on him. So yes he can protest it but it's already in place.
I am also representing myself.

@@@TickingKey46 hi yes was served on him in October. And he is trying to lift it causing me distress, I am representing myself in court he has a solicitor I have idva as support in court. Its worrying me but I can appeal if it gets lifted.

You can’t sue judges.

By all means fight your position @Yummychickenbuger but base it on facts and evidence, barracking doesn’t get you anywhere.

I certainly wouldn't go to court and call the other person a sociopath lier! You have to represent yourself based on facts and ideally facts you can back up with evidence.
I've not been to court regarding a non Molestation before but I have been loads regarding our children. I also had a 2 day fact finding hearing where I had to give evidence. Honestly you carn't just make broad statements like Cimone suggests. NCDV are a good organisation, they may have some useful advise.

@Keepingthingsinteresting thank you and I will

@TickingKey46 thank you for your advice I understand that I can't just go shouting and making broad statements. IDVA will guide me through.. i just honestly feel like im sinking, one minute im positive next minute negative. Its making me feel tired and so easy to just give up but I will fight through to the end. But this is my ex trying to scare me and cause me distress.

I was in court today. I had a non molestation order granted three weeks ago. My ex’s solicitors were trying to negotiate with my solicitor for an undertaking instead. I instructed my solicitor not to accept the undertaking as it isn’t as powerful as a nmo. But during court time my solicitor was asked by the judge whether I accepted an undertaking instead of the non molestation order and my solicitor said yes I accepted it. I am absolutely devastated. I only realised what an undertaking was this evening when I checked a solicitors website for a definition. I don’t know what to do now.

@LDG2024 maybe start a fresh post as people might not see your comment and just reply to the OP.

This sounds so tough - I hope you get some good advice.

Maybe try contacting the NCDV x