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Online dating etiquette

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something2say · 01/12/2023 09:03

Hiya,

Can you ladies please help me - what do I do in this situation?

I'm dating using Tinder. I have 14 matches but have only written to half of them and of them, am only talking to four. They all came along at the same time and they all seem really nice, and, I said on my profile 'no sexting' so the chats have been nice.

My problem is that I don't know how to chat to four men at the same time. My instinct is to knock three off and chat only to my favourite. But I don't know which that would be at this stage.

How do you navigate this? My work friends say, meet them and then decide. Messaging and then meeting face to face can really change things.

But again, I don't like to be the one saying 'let's meet' as I want them to do that. What happens if I meet one and then one of them messages that very night? I am not a woman for talking to more than one man, I feel awkward and disloyal doing it, but I don't know them yet to feel like that.

OLD is exciting but a bit awkward. There was one man I quite liked and we spoke all evening and in the morning he had unmatched me! So you have to have a thick skin. And there is one man of the four that I have met and he was hot as FUCK and I'd like to sleep with him, but he has a kink I'm not sure I'm into and if that keeps appearing in his sex life I'm afraid he might not be for me longer term, but I'd still like to sleep with him as I think he would be excellent.

How do you all manage this stage of dating?

Thank you

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Grimchmas · 01/12/2023 09:05

Less angst more just enjoying yourself!

I agree that meeting them quickly can thin the crowd.

But again, I don't like to be the one saying 'let's meet

is this based on stereotypes about men and dating, or...?

something2say · 01/12/2023 09:08

I have found that if I push things forward, it means I like more than they do so I try not to do that...

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Seaoftroubles · 01/12/2023 09:16

You won't know until you meet as online chemistry can quickly vanish in real life if you don't feel there's 'the spark'. Don't make a big deal about meeting, just suggest a quick coffee to see if there's a connection. Good luck!

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