Anyone separating after Christmas want to support each other?

[PotterM]

Hi anyone who is unfortunately in this position. I really need some support and solidarity with anyone who has been through this or is currently going through this.

Background

• Together 17 years
• 3 young children
• currently on Maternity leave but going back to work come February

Reason
DH cheated on me in May and found texts to other women. We had been limping along since then because I needed him for money and to move into a new rental as I wouldn't get one alone. However after Christmas he will be leaving.

I'm not bothered about myself to be honest I just feel so sad for the children they are so young. I know once on the other side I will be ok but I am devastated and just struggling to cope. How can I even make it through Christmas pretending to everyone we are a happy family.

Just think next Christmas it will be a happy one because you’ll be finally free of someone who didn’t treat you like they should have.

You will probably find more happiness and contentment with your 3 children on your own and work will probably keep you busy.

I hope things go smoothly for you over Christmas and just keep focusing on your 3 little ones to get through it

sorry about your shit time op things can only get better from here on in.

You are stronger than you think. You will be in a far better position alone with 3 DC than in an unhappy marriage.

My husband told me on Sunday that he's leaving after Christmas as he's no longer happy. Came as a massive shock to me, dreading keeping a smile on my face over Christmas for our little one.

Hi, sorry you’re in this position. I am also separating (as in living apart) from H after Christmas, though we have told everyone, including the kids (who are tweens/teens) and are basically separated now. It’s a strange time, I felt worse before we told the kids tbh, I feel a bit calmer now though it’s still very hard.