Partner drinking alchol while pregnant

[OLIVEstar]

Curious on others thoughts and if your partner/husband stopping drinking at a particular point in your pregnancy?
I am 8 months pregnant and my partner has not cut back on his drinking and will be over the limit to drive .. he works very hard and does not get obnoxious when he's drinking but I am just about at my limit to give him an ultimatum after asking him to limit his drinking incase he needs to drive

We’ve agreed once I hit 37 weeks he needs to be driver ready.

However, I’m not actually too bothered if he drinks once or twice in that period (eg we have a night out with friends planned and he can have a couple on Xmas day). The big caveat though is we are very well served by taxis and the hospital is only 10 mins away. I’d feel very differently if the drive was longer or we were more rural.

The worrying thing is that it is important to you, and he’s not willing to agree. Point out you’ve done a whole 8 months so he can at least do 1 month!

Congratulations!

My DH says he will stop drinking when I am around 35 weeks (soon!)but everyone will have different opinions. Just ask him if he's happy to stop drinking enough to stop sending him over the limit by the time you are at x weeks (whatever you feel is right for you), and take it from there.

Not cut back as in over the limit every single day? That in itself is an issue - unrelated to your pregnancy

Instead of asking him to stop drinking, ask him what he’ll do when it starts.

Chances are highest that you’ll know in plenty of time. Is he usually safe to drive next morning?
If drinking lightly after work, that’s from say 6pm til the next morning that he’ll be over the limit. I assume he won’t start drinking if you are having twinges.

Worst case scenario he drinks til bedtime then at midnight you get twinges- it will only have been 6 hours til he’s safe to drive. The chances of needing to get to hospital within 6 hours of your first twinge are small.

How much and is it every night?

Every night is a concern - but two beers for example on a weekend wouldn’t bother me as long as he was under the legal limit

Mine didn't stop
Not even when I was a week over due
But now he is my ex husband as he a selfish alcoholic

Working hard is not a reason to drink every night, most people work hard - if he "needs" it as a decompressor every day, he may be on the path to an alcohol problem.

Do you have someone else who could step in if he won't stop?