I fancy a guy at work.
. He doesn’t really look his age he’s 10 years older than me. . He’s not really my usual type. But he’s actually hilarious. I’ve never come across a guy that I find that funny.
Now the issue is. I have quite brutal banter. As in I give as good as I get. I often do it with him at work and I spend around an extra 2 hours at work at the end of the day sometimes just to talk. It’s silly I know but Christ I fancy him so much. I just have no clue how he feels at all.
I’m so bored of figuring out mixed signals. But the age gap is an issue.
I actively flirt with him though. After the work Xmas do. I got a little drunk there. We had some banter but nothing really happened. Anyway, I know I said some stupid things to him drunk. So I avoided him for about 2 days, cowering my head as I walked past or just generally going back the other way if I saw him coming.
Anyway, he approached me the other day saying. "hey. You ignoring me or something. I always see you walk the other way." Anyway I laughed it off and said "maybe but only because of what you said at the Xmas party"
In the end I stayed 2 extra hours after work to talk to him. And I made some very obvious flirting comments. Like I showed him my work and he went "oh fu*k me that's a lot" I went "oof steady on. No thanks" he then just laughed at me and I said "come on hurry up" he then went "oh just wait" I said "can't you do two things at once. I could teach you" so a major sexual innuendo tbh.
Then we spoke about a guy at work who likes my other colleague. He then went "never know. He might like you and be going through her first" I said "no he's not my type anyway." He went "why not. He's close to your age. He's decent and friendly" I went. "Yeah it's still a no." I said "he's got a bad haircut too" he went. "It's like mine" and I said "yeah but yours is nice his isn't" he then said "see it doesn't hurt to say nice things to me once in a while"
Later in the convo he mentioned he had met up with an ex, he said honestly we just ended up arguing in the end. I then said an ex from 4 years back still dipping in and out the scene is odd af. And I said they only come back for one thing anyway.
In the end, I just joked about his age and he went "why can't you say nice things" I often teased men like men tease women as flirting.
TLDR: I like a guy at work I don't know what to make of him because I don’t know if he likes me. I don't think we could have a relationship but I do really fancy him. Help? I just can’t tell if he likes me back