My boyfriend and his ex

[Dxmss]

I have been seeing someone I used to work with for around 3 months. I know it’s not
long and because we were friends before, our relationship seems deeper. We agreed to spend Xmas together.

my boyfriend has a child, the child lives with their mum. He said they didn’t work out, they get on well enough and are friendly. All seemed very nice. Except me and the child’s mum have a mutual friend. Child’s mum doesn’t know about me yet.

I caught up with our friend who said she saw the child’s mum, they went out for drinks and she got tipsy. Somehow my boyfriend got brought up, Childs mum said “ well he keeps asking me if I’m going on date nights “. Then apparently when she asked to speak to him about Christmas for their child. He said he was nervous that the call meant she would telling him she now has a boyfriend then joked she’s like a drug.

Now I feel uncomfortable with this but I don’t know if I’m being over the top. I have never gone out with someone with kids before

He’s clearly not over her yet. I’d throw this one back.

Yep, end it. You’ll only get hurt when she clicks her fingers.

Sounds like they both still like each other and it’s not quite over… ‘like a drug’ though sounds like he thinks she’s amazing, very fun but bad for him … so maybe he’s getting his head around moving on but isn’t quite ready.
I’d finish it for now and say - why don’t we try again in a few months when you’ve had time to think … Be truthful about your reasons - you really like him but he needs to work out his feelings.

I had to speak to him this morning about it. It was playing on my mind. He just said it was two weeks ago (!) and he is over het.

Hmmmm

id not want this
he’s totally tangled with another woman

and he will say whatever regardless as he wants to shag you
handle with caution ⛔️

Definitely a goodbye is in order before you get too embroiled

What an idiot actually saying to you she is like a drug.

So he is addicted to her presumably. You deserve better op.

@Dxmss he’s obviously not going to admit he’s not over her - but he clearly isnt. You now know the sort of things he’s saying to his ex, so he’s being disrespectful to you, and then also leading her on considering she doesn’t know about you! It’s only been a few months so why would you choose to ignore the obvious and insert yourself in what could be a very messy situation?

Just no. Get out now before you get any more invested. They're not done with each other.

I have never gone out with someone with kids before

You shouldn't, especially if you don't have any of your own and want them someday. Why have this baggage and headache in your life?

Throw this one back.

Yeah- this one has got to go. He’s not over the ex and won’t be for a long time. This is far too much drama for three months in, regardless of how long you’ve known each other. This is supposed to be the heart fluttery, texting all day, wanting to spend every moment together time, not this nonsense.
It’s also pretty humiliating for you. Mutual friend knows all about this situation now, and when the ex finds out about you she’s going to know all these things he’s been saying to her have been behind your back, and that he clearly doesn’t respect you and sees you as second best.
Walk away now with your dignity still in tact.