I'm over heartbreak but still don't feel completely myself

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My relationship ended just over 2.5 years ago now. I thought I was different than the others he discarded, but he turned cold on me also after a few years together. I was heartbroken for a long time but I'm over that now. However, I feel I haven't bounced back, if that makes sense, I feel flat and anxious a lot of the time.

Just prior to this relationship ending, a previous ex died suddenly and, although we weren't together, I was shocked and saddened by it.

I know I'd a lucky escape now, but feel 'stuck', if that makes sense.

Does anyone else feel similar? I haven't told anyone I feel like this as I'm sure they all think I'm back to 'normal' now.

OP traumatic events such as you describe can take their toll on your mental health and well being. Both involve loss and this can present itself different ways. Have you considered counselling? This could help you to examine your feelings in a safe and supportive space and hopefully help you to feel less stuck and more able to move forward.

If you were in an emotionally abusive relationship, which it sounds like you were, you may need to process all of that first. EA men are very good at leaving their victims with huge insecurities and guilt.

What is making you feel flat and anxious? x

He was fairly critical of me/my interests etc., at times, and I think I developed anxiety towards the end and I'm finding it hard to shake now