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Husband looking up ex girlfriends

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Anon108642 · 30/11/2023 19:58

I'm 2 weeks postpartum so I may be a bit oversensitive and hormonal

I was with my husband few days ago, he gave me his phone to look something up, on Google searches up came one of his ex girlfriends names

When he was downstairs today he left his phone sitting so I knowing his pass code went in and checked search history on Google, he isn't on social media, I see he has been looking up 2 of his ec girlfriends.

I know sometimes people look up exes out of curiosity, I've no suspicion that he is in contact with them or anything, he's been very supportive cleaning and cooking this past few weeks and is very supportive, but I can't help feeling a bit upset that I'm literally stuck on couch all day recovering, feeding our baby and he is looking up his exes on google. I guess my self esteem atm isn't really that great I feel a sweaty postpartum mess, I don't think I'd ordinarily care and I'd just put it down to curiosity whats your thoughts?

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Hiddenvoice · 30/11/2023 22:55

It may be something or it may be nothing. He could be looking them up online to see how their lives turned out now that he is settled and has a family.

He could be like me and like to have a nosey to see what they are up to. I’ve searched my exes a few times, just out of curiosity- sometimes to see if they settled down with the person they dated after me. It doesn’t mean anything to me and there’s definitely no feelings there.

Susieblue18 · 30/11/2023 22:58

I’ve looked up ex boyfriends, just out of curiosity. I’m happily married and would never want to make contact with them, just nosey.

SamW98 · 30/11/2023 23:04

I’ve looked up exes, former friends, old work colleagues, even people from school - absolutely nothing more than human curiosity and being nosey on the quiet.

justanothermanicmonday1 · 30/11/2023 23:07

Susieblue18 · 30/11/2023 22:58

I’ve looked up ex boyfriends, just out of curiosity. I’m happily married and would never want to make contact with them, just nosey.

Me too! I did this recently. Just sheer nosey 🤣

OzziePopPop · 30/11/2023 23:09

SamW98 · 30/11/2023 23:04

I’ve looked up exes, former friends, old work colleagues, even people from school - absolutely nothing more than human curiosity and being nosey on the quiet.

Absolutely! This is what social media is for, right? 😏

OP it’s almost certainly innocent and a trip down memory lane as others have said. I’d try to forget about it and enjoy your baby. Congratulations!

Chelsea543 · 01/12/2023 23:39

My boyfriend has been doing exactly the same since we had a baby. Apparently when I confronted him he said how his friends had been mentioning updates about them (one just got married) so he was “intrigued.”

I can’t really get mad as I do it but also it does hurt a bit after you’ve just had a baby and you think they’d be focusing their thoughts on their family life.

fulawitt · 02/12/2023 07:25

Calm down, he might be proud of himself and wants to know what the others have been up to. Also looking at their features and thank god he ended up with you because the baby looks like an angel - you -. All the best OP.

mindutopia · 02/12/2023 09:45

I look up ex boyfriends all the time. In fact, looked up one this morning, mostly out of curiosity if he was dead or in prison yet. It’s purely because I’m nosey and judgemental! I’m also still friends with a couple exes and in one case, I’m actually friends with his wife (Dh and I went to their wedding!).

Unless there is a bigger backstory, I think there is likely nothing to this. I have no idea if Dh has ever done the same, probably not because he is not as much of a busybody as me, but if he did, it would never occur to me to think he was interested in them or had contacted them. We have a very happy, healthy relationship and I can’t see how googling an ex from 20 years ago would change that.

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Anon108642 · 02/12/2023 11:11

Thanks everyone I'm glad of answers lol I think you're right nothing to obsess about, I just needed a second opinion and didn't want to ask sisters as its too personal. Thanks for good wishes too x

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Bearpawk · 02/12/2023 16:01

Haven't you ever looked up exes op? I definitely have. Just out of curiosity.

Bobbotgegrinch · 02/12/2023 18:22

Everyone looks up their exes once in a while to see what they're up to, surely?

Stop being a nosey bugger and rooting through his phone. We treat our phones these days as an extension of our minds, google whatever random thought pops into it. Searching through someone elses browsing history is a spectacular invasion of privacy.

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Anon108642 · 02/12/2023 20:28

I agree, however when I was googling something on his phone in front of him and his exes name came up as recently searched I Literally couldn't stop myself checking his history to see when he was looking her up and how many times, then I seen he checked out 2 exes. Its not about being nosey, as his wife I was concerned it meant something hence the reason for my post as I wanted a second opinion but not from anyone I know.

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Anon108642 · 02/12/2023 20:30

I have but before I met my husband, I've honestly not since, he genuinely never crosses my mind, I only have one significant ex however and it was 10+ years ago

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