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Supermarket choices

40 replies

CreativeCrochet · 30/11/2023 19:19

My DP and I are at that awkward in between stage of not living together but trying to head that way, so I'm going to start spending more time at his place. We both have a child each that lives with us, so they'll all be there too.
That's not the issue.
The issue is I shop at Tesco and he shops at Asda and we both hate the respective supermarkets!
I offered to buy food for this weekend as I'm cooking dinner Saturday night for us all, he instantly refused and said he'd get it. Purely cause I'd be getting it from Tesco.

How do we navigate this transition phase? He is 100% adamant he won't entertain eating food from Tesco. He reckons he ate food from there and it made him so ill it's put him off for life. I'm not keen on Asda but don't have a valid reason other than it doesn't cater for the regular things I buy. I have tried!
Anyone got any wise words that don't involve me just rolling over and giving in!

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Mammyloveswine · 30/11/2023 19:20

Eh? They are bog standard supermarkets! What on earth can you get in tesco but not yet in asda,?

PinkyBlueMe · 30/11/2023 19:22

It's not boding well tbf if this is coming between you!
Alternate them? That's a compromise.

Terfosaurus · 30/11/2023 19:22

Sounds like you both need to grow up.

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CreativeCrochet · 30/11/2023 19:23

I buy mostly own brand cause it's cheaper, when I've tried to shop at Asda they don't always have their own brand stuff. Can't think of a specific example right now and it may have been a while ago that I tried to do a full shop there. He buys mostly branded stuff so doesn't notice the difference

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lesdeluges · 30/11/2023 19:24

I think you should head for the hills and leave him in Asda before you do.

Or let him shop and cook for himself and his child, and you do the same for you. Perfect start to a wonderful "living together" dream. Hmmm.

Or just stay living separately and shop where you want. He sounds like an idiot, and you are picky too. You have to compromise otherwise stay apart.

Needmorelego · 30/11/2023 19:24

😂😂😂
Food is Food.
Good grief.

JewelleryCat · 30/11/2023 19:24

Find a new supermarket you can both use like Sainsburys

pinksheetss · 30/11/2023 19:25

You are both being ridiculously unreasonable

If you can't sort this then the relationship isn't going to work through actual issues...

Needmorelego · 30/11/2023 19:26

Go wild.
Go to Aldi.

ShellfishSeller · 30/11/2023 19:26

LTB - Leave The Basket... and run for the hills

madroid · 30/11/2023 19:27

Is this meant to be lighthearted?

Otherwise both agree to shop at Sainsburys. If you can't agree LTB.

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CreativeCrochet · 30/11/2023 19:27

Needmorelego · 30/11/2023 19:26

Go wild.
Go to Aldi.

I do actually prefer Aldi but it doesn't do delivery or click and collect and being a full time working parent to a child with special needs, I have to alternate and use Tesco delivery for convenience

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Smartiepants79 · 30/11/2023 19:27

If this is a real issue (never met anyone who’s so loyal to one particular supermarket in real life) then you both need to grow up and compromise.
Alternative weeks. Try a new supermarket.
Or grow up.
What is it about the other shops that bother you so much?

Needmorelego · 30/11/2023 19:29

@CreativeCrochet Iceland then. I use their home delivery. They are great.

shellyleppard · 30/11/2023 19:29

Try a supermarket you mutually agree on??? Failing that always just eat

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CreativeCrochet · 30/11/2023 19:30

Ok guys, cut me some slack here! I'm prepared to compromise, he won't meet me in the middle on just this one issue!
I do know there's more important things in life, I was just hoping for some advice on how to discuss it with him.

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Noodleface99 · 30/11/2023 19:31

This is literally the most bonkers thing I have ever read.

CurlewKate · 30/11/2023 19:33

"Oh don't be silly, Fred! We'll do alternate weeks. Or how about we choose a new Supermarket. Sainsburys for example."

category12 · 30/11/2023 19:34

He is 100% adamant he won't entertain eating food from Tesco. He reckons he ate food from there and it made him so ill it's put him off for life.
How does he think they stay in business if their food is so poisonous? 😂😂

Is he so rigid about other things?

AnneLovesGilbert · 30/11/2023 19:35

He reckons he ate food from there and it made him so ill it's put him off for life.

This is absolutely brilliant, sorry 😂😂😂

I feel that way about Nando’s but it’s not writing off a whole massive supermarket selling millions of different products (that will also be on sale in Asda…)

I couldn’t date someone daft enough to only buy branded groceries. Is he shitting money?

DoktorPeppa · 30/11/2023 19:35

Asda and Tesco are pretty interchangeable as far as supermarkets go, I don't get it. It's not as if one of you is insisting on Waitrose and the other Iceland

Needmorelego · 30/11/2023 19:37

@CreativeCrochet ok.... a serious answer.
Cook him a meal. Refuse to tell him which shop you got the products from. Don't show him any packaging.
If he refuses to eat it - he must have some sort of eating disorder or OCD type issue because that really isn't normal.
Then decide if you want to carry on with the relationship.

Mimikyuu · 30/11/2023 19:39

I’m with your partner, I fucking hate Tesco 🤣

If you’re not overly bothered then I don’t see why you can’t just change to Asda.

HollowEgg · 30/11/2023 19:41

LTB.

TammyJones · 30/11/2023 19:43

Surely, it's he , or she , who cooks - shops.
I cook, so I shop ....